I’m trying to figure out if I have Asperger’s or some other psychological condition. I’m pretty sure I have Asperger’s because I have a bunch of aspie traits and used to have more before masking. I’m borderline on several autism/Asperger’s tests but very high on the autism masking test. (A couple of years ago I began “flapping.” I never knew until the other day that this is a common autistic trait. I thought it was just an innocent quirk until someone told me how strange it looked.)
However, my parents rejected me and psychologically abused me, which undoubtedly caused many of my personality problems. Although I was well behaved and an “A” student (but painfully shy, nervous, and anxious), my father hated me and told me so (he once threw a glass at me and bounced it off my head). My mother told me she wished she’d had a real boy instead of me, and when I displeased her, told me she’d send me away and I’d never see her again if I kept being “bad.” I never got any love or affection.
Until recently, I assumed all the problems were caused by abuse because I didn’t know much about autism, which I thought usually required institutionalizing. I never knew why my parents rejected me, but having learned much about the autism spectrum in the last few months, I realize it could very well be because I have some form of autism, which they considered a choice on my part and “bad.”
My questions are: Can abuse cause the same behavior as autism? If so, can masking hide the problems? With intense masking, I’ve managed to lead a relatively successful life, but don’t know how bad my autism might have been, since my parents forced me under severe penalties to act normally ever since I was in the playpen—can masking hide even severe autism? Are my problems caused by Asperger’s, abuse, or some combination? (For more background, see my post, “Aspies Rejected by Parents” in the “Friends, Family & Social Skills” discussion group.)
However, my parents rejected me and psychologically abused me, which undoubtedly caused many of my personality problems. Although I was well behaved and an “A” student (but painfully shy, nervous, and anxious), my father hated me and told me so (he once threw a glass at me and bounced it off my head). My mother told me she wished she’d had a real boy instead of me, and when I displeased her, told me she’d send me away and I’d never see her again if I kept being “bad.” I never got any love or affection.
Until recently, I assumed all the problems were caused by abuse because I didn’t know much about autism, which I thought usually required institutionalizing. I never knew why my parents rejected me, but having learned much about the autism spectrum in the last few months, I realize it could very well be because I have some form of autism, which they considered a choice on my part and “bad.”
My questions are: Can abuse cause the same behavior as autism? If so, can masking hide the problems? With intense masking, I’ve managed to lead a relatively successful life, but don’t know how bad my autism might have been, since my parents forced me under severe penalties to act normally ever since I was in the playpen—can masking hide even severe autism? Are my problems caused by Asperger’s, abuse, or some combination? (For more background, see my post, “Aspies Rejected by Parents” in the “Friends, Family & Social Skills” discussion group.)