Aspie-only friendships?

[Geordie]

Who here likes only Aspies?

 

[WildCat]

OK, either..

1. I've never met an aspie in my life, or
2. like myself they've learned blend in with society well enough so as to not be noticed by the naked eye

Even so, and I think someone else posted something similar, we have enough trouble as it is with socialization that we may be even less likely to connect with other aspies. Possible outcome given my weak social finesse, but I could be wrong.

 

[Geordie]

Well i know people who only like people who have Asperger's, because only they understand each other.

 

[superboyian]

I have both aspies and non-aspies friendship. I just generally like people more nowadays than I ever did in the past and it doesn't really make any difference to me what the person is as long as they are living, they I totally respect anyone.

But the aspies would be the one that would tend to understand me more though, I wouldn't have to explain anything as such to why I'm like this or that.

 

[Geordie]

We do learn a lot from supportive NTs.

 

[Occasional_Demon]

I've only ever corresponded with fellow Aspies online, but I seem to get along with them pretty well for the most part. Generally I don't really care if a person is Aspie, NT, or whatever, as long as we can get along and we can tolerate each other.

 

[Geordie]

I've only ever corresponded with fellow Aspies online, but I seem to get along with them pretty well for the most part. Generally I don't really care if a person is Aspie, NT, or whatever, as long as we can get along and we can tolerate each other.

Isn't this what relationships should be like?

 

[BruceCM]

Is it? Huge assumption! It surely also depends what you mean, as I don't suppose you mean to tolerate people bullying you, if you can avoid it, surely? Usual sort of idea I hear that rapidly falls apart if you actually think about it, even a little bit.

 

[Geordie]

Thinking about people bullying me? To be honest, I know a few Aspies who can bully through manipulating power, exploiting others, even if pointed so.

 

[BruceCM]

The point being whether you'd 'tolerate' it or not. Presumably, it'd be limited to 'mutual tolerance'? However, even that usually gets complicated! What about when I inadvertently say things that offend people? If I really expect them to simply 'tolerate' that, I'd have to 'tolerate' them saying things I find offensive! In that case, what'd 'tolerate' mean, though? That'd then have to extend to verbal bullying, at least, for the same reasons. In all honesty, I can't go for that, sorry!

 

[Geordie]

Mutual tolerance only destabilizes relationships.