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ASD1? 2? And 3?

Jonn said:
You can't assume all ppl on the spectrum are unfailingly honest.
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Never said it was the case for all. It's just that I find detailed overexplanations of nonverbal cues to be a polar opposite of expecting others to read your mind and it's surprising. And I meant tendencies, yes. It's impossible to make a statement that will be true for everyone in such a large group as people on the autism spectrum.
 
If I am trying to explain something about a favorite subject or favorite series ect. ,I do overexplain. Also if frightened and seeking assurance that things are fine I can be very repetitive and perhaps overexplain the fears and/or suggested solutions. It is very situational when I overexplain vs when I don't think to speak up really.
 
I am insecure about asking for things because I never knew what my Dad in particular would disapprove of. For example when very young probably a toddler I had a blue balloon and was so happy to have it. My dad had music on and I started bouncing myself and the balloon to the beat of the music. He took the balloon from me and sliced it with a blade. I was heartbroken for my balloon. He said it was controlling me and he was rescuing me from it !?????! I am very uncomfortable expressing interest in having an item unless I know for sure that it will not be a problem so I actually have anxiety around asking for things or even spending my own money on things. Instead I just would look at it and assumed that if someone wanted me to have it they would tell me. Sometimes my behavior would get noticed and I would be asked if I wanted to get something. I think my dad is the only person who has ever treated me like I described above but he left me with severe anxiety about displeasing anyone that I see as an authority figure. I finally started opening up to my Mama here back about things that happened behind her back when I was a child and she is trying to help me work through overcoming these issues.
 
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