I am 33, father of three daughters: 12,12,9. I am an Aspie, kids most likely not on spectrum. I have my rules and standards, and it seems so many rules are broken. I find myself constantly nagging them about breaking rules. I can't find a happy medium, or "choose my battles". I make rules to establish good healthy habits.
Am I a complainer / nag?
Here are a few rules broken today that I called them on and got several withering stares in return.
Fist full sized wads of toilet paper clogging toilet (1-2 rolls per day!!!!!)
Dragging plates/ bowls across fine wood table.
Showering in my bathroom
(They have their own)
Leaving lights on when not in rooms and back door open.
Whining about folding laundry.
Eating junk food after school.
Raising their voices.
Talking INCESSANTLY ( I didn't mention this to them)
Drinking lunch water bottles at dinner/ random times instead of filtered tap water.
Dirty laundry left in bathroom and hall way.
Crying with a moaning wail at every dispute between kids
( 20 minutes or longer at times)
Making high pitched steaks and squeals that make my ears hurt.
Arguing.
Staying up past 8:45 bed time.
On any other day the list may be longer and more severe rules broken. This stuff makes me very very disturbed and upset, I keep it inside mostly. I can't seem to get them to follow many rules.
To be fair they are well behaved outside the house. Get good/ great grades. Make generally good decisions. Are liked by peers and teachers. I feel like it could be so much worse than it is, but that doesn't reduce my frustration with their rule breaking.
Any autistic parents out there who have learned to cope with such things? Help please. I don't want to be an annoying overbearing Dad, but I don't want so many rules broken either.
Edit: misuse of then for than. Tsk tsk.
Am I a complainer / nag?
Here are a few rules broken today that I called them on and got several withering stares in return.
Fist full sized wads of toilet paper clogging toilet (1-2 rolls per day!!!!!)
Dragging plates/ bowls across fine wood table.
Showering in my bathroom
(They have their own)
Leaving lights on when not in rooms and back door open.
Whining about folding laundry.
Eating junk food after school.
Raising their voices.
Talking INCESSANTLY ( I didn't mention this to them)
Drinking lunch water bottles at dinner/ random times instead of filtered tap water.
Dirty laundry left in bathroom and hall way.
Crying with a moaning wail at every dispute between kids
( 20 minutes or longer at times)
Making high pitched steaks and squeals that make my ears hurt.
Arguing.
Staying up past 8:45 bed time.
On any other day the list may be longer and more severe rules broken. This stuff makes me very very disturbed and upset, I keep it inside mostly. I can't seem to get them to follow many rules.
To be fair they are well behaved outside the house. Get good/ great grades. Make generally good decisions. Are liked by peers and teachers. I feel like it could be so much worse than it is, but that doesn't reduce my frustration with their rule breaking.
Any autistic parents out there who have learned to cope with such things? Help please. I don't want to be an annoying overbearing Dad, but I don't want so many rules broken either.
Edit: misuse of then for than. Tsk tsk.
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