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Featured ASD and following instructions

Discussion in 'General Autism Discussion' started by harrietjansson, Dec 21, 2019.

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  1. BlueSky Aozora

    BlueSky Aozora Well-Known Member

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    Hmm.. So you want to experiment by yourself first, then you want somebody to hear or criticize your performance? What is it exactly? Maybe you don't need a music teacher in the beginning? Can't you discuss it with your teacher? Or find a teacher you like? Sorry for the ranting
     
  2. Bellacat

    Bellacat Active Member

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    Usually when I reach the point where I'm telling someone else about a problem I have already thought it through from so many angles that I will end up rejecting every suggestion they have for one reason or another. It's exceptionally rare that someone comes up with an idea I haven't already thought of because I have used so much time on it already. They rarely use more than a few seconds to think of their idea so it's just the first thing that comes to mind, and it's tedious and frustrating for everyone to have me verbally walk through the reasons why each of those ideas won't work or aren't acceptable.

    If I'm talking about a problem, I'm usually just venting my frustration that the problem appears unsolvable or not solvable in an acceptable way, and not really expecting to get useful advice from anyone. I guess the most satisfactory response would be some kind of acknowledgement or commiseration like "Yeah that's a tough one". If they actually take time to give it some real thought and give me ideas beyond the obvious things that come to mind immediately then that's different but that's not usually how it goes.
     
  3. Chrysanthemum

    Chrysanthemum Active Member

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    I understand that some people, perhaps yourself included (as implied in your post), may have difficulty in or not be willing to following instructions due to wanting to express themselves just as they are. I don't think not wanting to following instructions due to wanting to express onself is necessarily wrong, unless it is in a context where it is necessary (e.g. for health and safety reasons, or at work or school where the "instructions" are directly related to the job duties).

    I think that for myself, sometimes I am not good at understanding instructions because either I find it difficult to understand and/or quickly process the instructions, or maybe sometimes don't really know how to follow a instruction but don't necessarily ask for clarification (which, not asking for clarification is really on me/my fault). My point is that if one doesn't follow instructions because one doesn't understand it, or because one doesn't know how to, that doesn't necessarily mean they don't want to follow instructions!

    I think it has to be considered that some people with an ASD (including me sometimes) have difficulty in quickly processing and/or understanding verbal and/or written instructions, sometimes especially those with idiomatic language! Also, I think that even some of those who do not have a diagnosis of any sort can still find it difficult to understand instructions (language-based, visual, or other type of), though some people may find a certain type or format of instruction easier or harder to understand than other types of instructions!

    However, some people with ASDs may be comfortable with routines or rituals, and that may interfere with following instructions that interfere with them? However, if that is the case, I can also imagine that it is possible that following certain instructions can also make some people with ASDs feel comfortable.

    If the instructions are related to social interaction, perhaps the instructions themselves may be difficult to understand for some people with ASDs, or if it is a case in which the person with ASD can follow it but refuses to do so, perhaps it can be a case of the person with ASD not understanding why it is important. However, for myself I think I would find that clear instructions would make it easier to know what is expected of me and what exactly to do.
     
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