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Are you understood?

Shevek

Shevek

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How many people do you think understand you? How about your work? Maybe just one special interest, but no other areas, or other limited understanding. If anyone "gets you," are they relatives, friends, teachers, co-workers or? Do you get to brainstorm on your interests with others?
I'll start - All zeros.
 
I was told by a coworker, If they actually understood what you were talking about, what you can see they would realize they have a near genius on their hands. Why I wanted a supervisory position to implement my ideas.
 
I've met several people over the years who I connect with easier than others, but only one in my lifetime I feel "gets" me. It's a pretty low percentage.
 
Shevek said:
Online or off.
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Ok, in that case, I would say sometimes I am well understood here. Not about everything, but enough that this is the only place I feel safe or like there is any point in trying to explain or share anything about myself.

It is hard to think about it in terms
of categories...I can't seem
to do that at all or I get overloadrd and it all falls apart...

I would say I have felt at least partly understood by a lot of people here, thinking of people off the top of my head atm won't count all of them but I got to 15 before I started losing track.

In my offline life, actually I had a brain glitch - 1 or maybe 2 people understand me at least partly. I hardly speak to one of them bc of circumstance and the other is confusing and may not understand me at all.

In the past I would have said at least 8 for offline life for partial understanding; At one of the rare happy and supported times of my life (which btw lasted only about 3 years and actually now I think about it was the only happy and supported time out of almost 40 years).

More than 15 if you count my entire offline life and not just "at any given time all simultaneously".

More than 19 if you count cats.

2 of the people who understood me most in this world died many years ago (7 if you count cats).

Everyone else sort of drifted away/we lost touch as life circumstances changed.

I don't think I will ever be understood by nor understand anyone else completely...it's hard for me to imagine that being possible for anyone.
 
Aspychata said:
I like this post. Sometimes being ND means nobody gets you, and you need to be comfortable with that.
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Agreed, though it hurts sometimes when it's those closest to you who just don't get us. I haven't spoken to my brother or cousin in the last six months. Don't expect them to call either...which is probably best for all of us at this point.
 
Judge said:
Agreed, though it hurts sometimes when it's those closest to you who just don't get us. I haven't spoken to my brother or cousin in the last six months. Don't expect them to call either...which is probably best for all of us at this point.
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Wish we could do multiple reactions. Can't so here is the second : Screenshot 2025-10-13 at 12.32.54 AM.webp
 
Shevek said:
How many people do you think understand you? How about your work? Maybe just one special interest, but no other areas, or other limited understanding. If anyone "gets you," are they relatives, friends, teachers, co-workers or? Do you get to brainstorm on your interests with others?
I'll start - All zeros.
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I agree with zeros in my past professional life and current social life, but since I've been writing songs about my life experiences people do seem to get me. I truly believe that music can reach people where nothing else can. 🎸🎸
 
Shevek said:
How many people do you think understand you? How about your work? Maybe just one special interest, but no other areas, or other limited understanding. If anyone "gets you," are they relatives, friends, teachers, co-workers or? Do you get to brainstorm on your interests with others?
I'll start - All zeros.
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Based on the fact that I am pretty much masking all the time... I would be surprised if anyone gets to understand me, I mean... the real me...
 
Nobody at the present. But, I have very few interactions with anyone now.
The person I live with sure doesn't understand me. He tries to make me think I am an idiot all the time. I know I am not.

There were a few years in my life when I was a student at a private college that I felt the majority of the others there understood me. We were all studying the same special interest, so they were mostly into what I had to say and share. Yeah, we could brainstorm.
Still there were some I just didn't get along with.
I think that is the way life in general is. There will always be those you just don't jive with whether you're ND or NT.
 
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