Are you married

[On the Inside]

I married AC moderator Harrison on July 14th of this year, after swearing I'd never even consider a second marriage. We technically met and got to know each other here. Call it the magic of Trebuchet MS and the same weird wiring.

I wanted to do it because after only a few private messages between us, I knew I had met the man I never thought existed. The thought of not spending the rest of my life with him just wouldn't register. I also liked his last name better than mine.

It's not a very "romantic" relationship, like the kind a lot of NT's imagine, but there's a huge amount of love there. First and foremost, Harrison is my best friend. I have a very assertive, extroverted personality and can only really match up well with someone smarter and stronger than I am. We keep each other grounded but dreaming, too. Our Aspie traits dovetail very well, so we also truly understand each other; I don't think either of us thought that would or even could ever happen. Neither of us really needed this, either, which makes it especially cool that we have it. At 45 and 61, we know we're both extremely lucky.

Hooray for happy beginnings, leading to happy endings. Congratulations!

 

[Slithytoves]

Hooray for happy beginnings, leading to happy endings. Congratulations!

Thanks! I hope things are going well between you and your partner these days.

 

[Mia]

Yesterday was our thirty-two year anniversary. Together most of our adult lives, a good person and a loving husband. We both patched up the difficulties in one another, and we still hold hands. We've both grown up inside the marriage, I don't like being without him.

 

[On the Inside]

Thanks! I hope things are going well between you and your partner these days.

Yes, thank you, things are going better. She has been being the agent for change that she has long expected me to be, that has her focusing on other things rather than me and my issues. She identifies strongly with being an Aries, which I don't understand that well, not being into astrology. I'm a Pisces, and she is fond of stating how the combination is supposed to be conflicted and fiery. Well, it certainly has been. But as I said, it has been much easier to be together lately.

 

[Slithytoves]

Yesterday was our thirty-five year anniversary. Together most of our adult lives, a good person and a loving husband. We both patched up the difficulties in one another, and we still hold hands. We've both grown up inside the marriage, I don't like being without him.

Congratulations! That's quite a feat these days. (I don't think I even have that much time left!)

I love it that you still hold hands. It's such a simple thing, but it says so much between people who appreciate it. It's a really nice way of saying, "I'm here, with and beside you." It also helps keep an Aspie from crashing into things.

Yes, thank you, things are going better. She has been being the agent for change that she has long expected me to be, that has her focusing on other things rather than me and my issues. She identifies strongly with being an Aries, which I don't understand that well, not being into astrology. I'm a Pisces, and she is fond of stating how the combination is supposed to be conflicted and fiery. Well, it certainly has been. But as I said, it has been much easier to be together lately.

I'm so glad to hear that, OtI. Wow. That's such a relief!

Harrison and I are both Taureans, birthdays two days apart. I'm sure the bulls will be locking horns now and then. No relationship is ever completely smooth. Hopefully you won't have any more turbulence for a good long time. You've certainly earned some easy going. Again, I'm so happy for you!

 

[hiraeth]

I am married. We have an open marriage, meaning we are both still free to date others as well - just can't commit to anyone else. For us it's more for legal reasons and friendship. We are best friends, we enjoy many activities together but, there's little to no romance between us.

So companionship, help when needed for chores, financial benefits and such are the main things I gain from my DH. In turn he gains the same from me and, either of us will be well provided for when the other dies.

Probably too practical and logical for most to think it's a good marriage but, we are happy and, it's what we want so, neither of us cares what anyone else thinks of our arrangement.

I'm glad you share this because this is exactly what I want. Nothing romantic, definitely nothing sexual, but a companion to be committed to and share life in a practical sense with. The world has done a great job of telling me in myriad ways that there's something wrong with me and I'll never be able to find someone, and, for now I'm okay with the latter but I wasn't for most of my life.