Anyone's neurotypical partner mocking any of your traits?

[Suzanne]

My husband has taken to mocking the fact that I take things literally.

I tend to ask more than one question at a time, which he says I shouldn't, because a person can only answer one thing at a time, so I do try not to, but via text I did this just now and he just gave one answer and then said: I took you literally ie I said: are you coming in or going out into the shed? Well, his "yes" meant both, but I did not see that at the time.

Winds me up, because although it can be funny taking things literally, it can also be awful and he just doesn't get it!

 

[ksheehan88]

If he is genuinely mocking you I'd give him a punch in the throat...

It sounds lame but perhaps he "forgot"?

I also ask many questions at once through text, I didn't realise people didn't do that? If he had just replied "yes" I would've text back asking "yes to which?"

 

[Suzanne]

If he is genuinely mocking you I'd give him a punch in the throat...

It sounds lame but perhaps he "forgot"?

I also ask many questions at once through text, I didn't realise people didn't do that? If he had just replied "yes" I would've text back asking "yes to which?"

Oh he never forgets, because he comes out and says it: I was only taking you literally and I am thinking: you have no idea buddy and although I couldn't do that to his throat, I certainly feel like a child and get into an angry tantrum.

Thanks so much for answering my thread.

 

[Alcyon]

I'm still mulling this over. Suzanne , what you describe is interesting, but not in a good way.

About three years ago, I was with someone who had a working knowledge of mood and mental disorders (some of that knowledge was from first hand experience), had previously been in a relationship with a man who had Asperger's, and had a nephew who was diagnosed. Which is to say, she knew what she was doing...

I can't recall the exact specifics, but she indirectly asked me to do something. I asked for clarification...and she wouldn't respond; she said I should be able to figure it out. And this went back and forth for some time, what a strange situation; thinking about it now brings up strong, negative emotions.

I distinctly felt like I was the mouse and she was the cat.

I now think that what was going on could be described as abusive. I didn't know in the moment how to handle it; but I was quite ready for the next time.

There is nothing wrong with my expecting my clearly stated and valid needs from another person to be met, either in whole or as much as the other person can.

To my credit, I didn't turn this into a "my way or the highway" situation: I liked her too much for that. We're still friends.

 

[Suzanne]

I asked for clarification...and she wouldn't respond; she said I should be able to figure it out. And this went back and forth for some time, what a strange situation;

Oh my husband is always saying this to me and I think: what the heck is going on here; all you have to do is state what you mean! It really goads me and I end up saying: well if you want a decent response from me, then start being reasonable and I will give you a response.

I am not into this stupid game at all!

 

[Alcyon]

Oh my husband is always saying this to me and I think: what the heck is going on here; all you have to do is state what you mean! It really goads me and I end up saying: well if you want a decent response from me, then start being reasonable and I will give you a response.

I am not into this stupid game at all!

How frustrating for you! I'd tell you more about how I deal with it, but I know you're trying to not swear.

Me, I'm happy using language that would singe the other person's hair. Desperate times call for...

 

[Suzanne]

How frustrating for you! I'd tell you more about how I deal with it, but I know you're trying to not swear.

Me, I'm happy using language that would singe the other person's hair. Desperate times call for...

Go ahead and share the secret ingrediant to a harmoneus relationship lol

I tend to swear when I am so angry that I cannot function right; but still not insane as it were.

I hate swearing as a general rule.

 

[Alcyon]

Go ahead and share the secret ingrediant to a harmoneus relationship lol

I tend to swear when I am so angry that I cannot function right; but still not insane as it were.

I hate swearing as a general rule.

Swearing is how we keep things on an even keel! That we live apart really helps too.

More to the point of your original post, and without drawing firm conclusions in absence of a lot more information...I do think that treatment is inappropriate, and you have the right to ask for better.

 

[clg114]

I have a NT wife and she never mocks me about anything. This is not how marriage works. We just treat each other like we love each other. This has worked for a very long time.