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am I´m getting fooled?

normally I would give someone 1-2 weeks to determine date and time for a meeting. because she shaid she is stressed atm and got less time, 3 weeks were also "okay." and actual I do nothing because tomorrow is the move out day of her and I won´t mess up things unneeded. but if, lets say this week no date and time will be determined (she also don´t answered me for about 5 days), I will break up and delete her number. because until then she moved out, that would be no problem. but actual it would be a bit complicated maybe.

on a social contact website 30-40 people said they want to meet me. but only 5 people did. most are lame ducks, but I can´t know at the beginning, I have to wait some time. (also on group meetings, about 20 people confirm, but most of the time only 5-10 (or less) people are there (I heard this and saw this on my own). some people confirm to different meetings at the same time and never join in real life.

I hate people who confirm a meeting with me, but never do something. But they look like everyone else (like for example honest people) and I can not sort them out in the first second. I have to wait 1-2 weeks to see how the person acts to decide if the person is honest or not and if I want to wait longer or not.

most of people waste my time and nerves but this can not be avoided. otherwise I couldn´t find the people I want.
 
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Anna really made me angry. her behavior, even with the appartment, was unsocial and disrepectful. (today were some things I not wrote so far) I have the strong craving to verbally punch her face with my fists like a pinata. I know exactly what words I would use. but I don´t think that would help and I don´t have to see her if I don´t want to, because she moved out.

but to say nothing feels like I put up with it and I don´t want that people like her think that she can do this. I want to show that this impression is wrong.

I am very good in sarcasm, it would be no problem to verbally attack her with some impact. but I not used sarcasm for a long time and I think it is wrong to let anger guide my words.

sarcasm comes from greek "sarkazein" and means "to rent" and that is totally true.

My anger says "let it all out", but my mind says "that make no sense and will better nothing."

I will not say anything violating or insulting, but Anna I have to say something: "You´re fired". Its enough, I will finish this and write her what I think about her.

Ok my text is ready. I would post it here, but its in german. my words still are very harsh. If she would be a nice person and I was wrong, I would feel bad. and I would fear that she revenges (don´t think so but it would be a fear) if she is really that bad.
 
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well I am scared now. she knows my adress and my name. If she will do something like stalking or violence, I will call the police.

but she was so ugly to me (I called her and was very friendly), that I couldn´t do nothing.

I said she is a shame and her behavior is disgusting. I never saw a person acting so ugly and disrepectful to me like her. really. she doesn´t know me, but she treats me like waste. I had to say something.

I am really shocked because never anyone acted like this to me. I am really scared right now.

I hope that it will not escalate more and I hope that I don´t need to call the police. I won´t contact her any longer. I blocked her on my phone.

If she would contact my landlord, I will tell her what happened, but I think I should wait with that.

I hope this was a scare with end, concrete on "end", like I never have to see her again.
 
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maybe it was dumb to write the text to her, but I couldn´t declare it to myself if I would have done nothing. I just can not accept when people treat me like this. I had to say something. I would have hated myself otherwise.

lol found that translator is better and faster than I could write english. I just could insert my german text and translate it, but I don´t do it, because I won´t learn anything and my english skills wouldn´t be any better.

phone call:
anna: WHAT? I AM SICK. I WAS SLEEPING, YOU MADE WE WAKE UP!!!
me: hello, here is "shaddock", just wanted to ask you if you are still interested in contact with me - sleeping 2 pm? how could I know?
anna: NO!!!! (not interested in contact) LET ME SLEEP!!!! BYE!!!!

than I thought "well, get lost girl, get lost"

and sended her this message I wrote some minutes earlier:

"to complete it:

first of all, thank you for not telling me about the washing machine, I asked you explicitly before the week. if I had known, I could have ordered one.

apartment is halfway okay, but more than the most necessary you did not. not even wiped with a wet cloth over it, that's already very lazy. I'd be embarrassed to leave a flat like that.

that with the energy provider of you was absolutely selfish and unnecessary and your reaction on it was unempathetic and disrespectful.

you ignored me a week on whatsapp. I find such a behavior childish and unnecessary.

I don't think you gave me your number from interest, you just did because you hoped for anything about the apartment.

that describes you very well. you are a selfish and respectless person. Your smile is fake and you're just doing nice if you want something from one.

28 but yet you are a disloyal pubercating girl, without any condition. I'm really sorry for your friend who you're pulling together. it wouldn't surprise me if he would pull out right away.

I would have known that I would never have asked you for contact, but unfortunately I fell in on your wrong smile and did not notice the ugly in you behind it. I really thought you were a friendly person, otherwise I would never have asked you.

I'd be ashamed to have contacted someone like you. you are a lying and character-poor person.

a lot of success

I've rarely met anyone like you. you've listened to the phone. just totally repulsive.

you are a shame for humanity."

(auto-translated)

and I not talked about the toilet (her toilet in the past)... I really have to clean it, otherwise I surely get some disease from it. disgusting. not even speaking about the rest of the appartment. not totally dirty, but still enough to make me think "I have to clean EVERYTHING here and so far I am not willing to touch anything in this appartment.

this toilet is like her full behavior, totally disgusting.

I am not glad about how the situation escalated and went, but I am glad that I broke the contact with her, because until the call I knew she would never contacted me again and I would have waited forever without breaking the contact up. also I did something against her disgusting behavior and "gave her the bill."
 
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Well that escalated. I mean shes a stranger, you can't just trust strangers to be nice to you.
 
@Shaddock

Go back and read my first post in this thread. This time, assume the post was a recommendation on how you should behave, and every word is accurate.

Compare with your current situation.

You created this situation unnecessarily. It may not be possible to "walk it back", but if you change your attitude I'll try to help.

If you come back with more diversions and denial you won't hear from me again.
 
well, hypnalis. I have to tell you that you are not beholden to "help" me or other people. this forum is voluntary and noone has to read or answer any thread if he don´t want to.

but if someones answers or posts something, it is only his/her opinion and there is no beholden for the threader to follow these instructions and noone says that someones answer is the only or best answer to a situation. noone is beholden to do anything, except for following the rules of the staff.

your posts are only your opinion. nothing wrong with that, but don´t think that others have to do what you think is the best for them. everyone should do what he thinks is the best for him. you don´t have to answer anyway.

better don´t answer anymore. so you don´t have to stress yourself and I have no problem with that too.

if my posts would be against the rules, the staff can say something and I would stop writing about controversial things. but I don´t do that because of one person. (except the staff).

most of my posts are okay, some are maybe not. and I can put myself back, if it would be necessary. (sometimes annoying, sometimes lovable, like my user title)
 
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