LittleLemon
Well-Known Member
My mom had a very odd passing from cancer 4 years ago. I say odd because well, it was very odd and way more traumatic than it needed to be. Her old neighbor was a family friend and my mom put a lot of stress on her because no one knew she had cancer except for her. Finally I was told and I made my way there (I lived in another state). The neighbor let me stay at her house while my mom was in hospice. She always seemed very friendly and very welcoming and gave the best hugs.
Anyway, after my mom passed, I would periodically drop in if I was in the neighborhood visiting. She seemed really excited everytime I came. She even suggested she could come over for Memorial Day when we moved back to the state and got a house. She said she'd call. I was excited for her to visit and cleared the calendar. As the date got closer, I never got a call. I texted her and no answer. I just shrugged it off as she was busy. Well, I called her number a year or so ago, she said she was at work. She sounded overly excited to hear from me again. She said she'll call me later that day. Nothing. I sent her daughter a FB message asking if she was in town because it'd be nice to hang out. The daughter was always a friend of mine. No reply. A few weeks ago, I texted the neighbor again if she wanted to get together for a beer, and no reply. I gave up after that. They obviously don't want anything to do with me and I'm so puzzled.
Why would someone act so excited and give such warm hugs if they didn't mean it? Was my mom's passing so awful for them that they want nothing to do with me? I don't get it.
Anyway, after my mom passed, I would periodically drop in if I was in the neighborhood visiting. She seemed really excited everytime I came. She even suggested she could come over for Memorial Day when we moved back to the state and got a house. She said she'd call. I was excited for her to visit and cleared the calendar. As the date got closer, I never got a call. I texted her and no answer. I just shrugged it off as she was busy. Well, I called her number a year or so ago, she said she was at work. She sounded overly excited to hear from me again. She said she'll call me later that day. Nothing. I sent her daughter a FB message asking if she was in town because it'd be nice to hang out. The daughter was always a friend of mine. No reply. A few weeks ago, I texted the neighbor again if she wanted to get together for a beer, and no reply. I gave up after that. They obviously don't want anything to do with me and I'm so puzzled.
Why would someone act so excited and give such warm hugs if they didn't mean it? Was my mom's passing so awful for them that they want nothing to do with me? I don't get it.