Afraid of treatment

[Jenisautistic]

Hi everyone

I’m afraid to talk about my fears and trauma/ troubles because I don’t want to be misunderstood mistreated or at risk of hospitalization

 

[tree]

That in itself is worth talking about with a therapist,
if you have one.

 

[Kayla55]

I found hospital was traumatic, I flipped out so badly and I laugh at other patients there who had to answer psychologists questions and calm down. It can be easy to get so wrapped up in event and overeact.
I'm thinking of applying for office work again, enjoy being busy on a project. I've never being emotional but rather methodical person, not quite sharing my feelings and now that I'm older I resent that I wasn't spontaneous and missed out on so many friend-invites.

 

[Dagan]

I just posted in another thread for someone...

"Fear" alone is the core villain to practically all of our stories. It can be tough to overcome / defeat, but if there's any one thing in life that we should all force ourselves to win out over when it comes to personal betterment and well health....we should want to defeat fear itself. Once past that, you will feel free and relieved and immediately on the path to anything it takes / any path or journey required to feel better, be better, do better, happiness overcoming stress or worries, etc.

Therapy is not a stigma and should have never been thought of as such. Most therapists themselves are contractually obligated to have therapists, believe it or not. You will be okay. It may take a few therapists to screen / go through to find out who you feel okay with and trusting, but it will be okay. We're all here in the lesser professional capacities, still, too - we're all here to still chat with you as best and as much as we can.

 

[Tiger]

Hi everyone

I’m afraid to talk about my fears and trauma/ troubles because I don’t want to be misunderstood mistreated or at risk of hospitalization

I'd say it is a ligit fear to have but that you are aware of the problem "being misunderstood" is a safe sign I'd say. That means you can spot it. If you feel you are being misunderstood don't stay, look again elsewhere. <3

I'd say that more somatic practises was a gamechanger for me. It was less digging and analysing, and more focus on the experience of it in the body and basically just something to help guide you to you. Instead of a psychologist analysing you and telling you what they think it is. For me it felt softer, safer but still challanging.

For example Hypnosis, EMDR

I hope you find a safe open place to share without judgement <3

 

[velociraptor]

Hi everyone

I’m afraid to talk about my fears and trauma/ troubles because I don’t want to be misunderstood mistreated or at risk of hospitalization

I find it helpful to talk out stuff with an AI.

 

[WhitewaterWoman]

Hi everyone

I’m afraid to talk about my fears and trauma/ troubles because I don’t want to be misunderstood mistreated or at risk of hospitalization

I understand that fear and it has been borne out in several therapists in my life.

If you want to try therapy, you might want to just talk about the little fears first to see how the therapist responds. If you don’t like it, switch therapists until you find one you feel is taking you seriously.

Sometimes our fears, which we believe to be solely our own, are quite common. This could be reassuring to you.

Your therapist should NOT be talking to your parents or other authority figure.

Some people find talking to AI helpful, but AI can mislead you.

I think where AI could be a real help is letting you know if your fears are common. Ask for references. AI might give you a wrong answer because that’s what it thinks you want to hear.

 

[RemyZee]

Hi everyone

I’m afraid to talk about my fears and trauma/ troubles because I don’t want to be misunderstood mistreated or at risk of hospitalization

The harsh reality is that when we trust someone enough to let them in, we might be misunderstood or mistreated. It's always a risk, especially because you run the danger of someone completely misinterpreting what you are going through. You have to ask yourself whether that person you are confiding in feels trustworthy--what your intuition tells you and start slow. You don't have to reveal things to others all at once...whether with a therapist or a friend or someone else. You can test things out first. Also, the person you confide in doesn't have to be a professional--you can find people to trust who might not be obvious--the great aunt who no one pays attention to, the hairstylist who is really funny who you've gone to for a year, the second cousin who you haven't seen for months. You will often find them ready and happy to listen.

 

[Kayla55]

I just posted in another thread for someone...

"Fear" alone is the core villain to practically all of our stories. It can be tough to overcome / defeat, but if there's any one thing in life that we should all force ourselves to win out over when it comes to personal betterment and well health....we should want to defeat fear itself. Once past that, you will feel free and relieved and immediately on the path to anything it takes / any path or journey required to feel better, be better, do better, happiness overcoming stress or worries, etc.

Therapy is not a stigma and should have never been thought of as such. Most therapists themselves are contractually obligated to have therapists, believe it or not. You will be okay. It may take a few therapists to screen / go through to find out who you feel okay with and trusting, but it will be okay. We're all here in the lesser professional capacities, still, too - we're all here to still chat with you as best and as much as we can.

I found some nice friends but later on in life, when I learnt to open up. Found myself dealing with issues in life and by time I got to weekly therapy I just sat there with not much to say, maybe ADHD and in moment it's intense.
Found nice friends and books more helpful, honestly. Don't expect a stranger to give hoot about my problems and fake pretenses to care about impersonal patient.

 

[Dagan]

Kayla, you simply prove "expectation vs. reality." Also, though, you use the word "intense" which promotes the experience as kind of scary. What I said still rings true. Fear. You didn't overcome the fear well enough, and that's why you didn't progress on past it. Fear prevents people from opening up to others. You were afraid to do so with a therapist, but you chose who and what you aren't afraid of instead for comfort. There's nothing wrong with that because it's your personal choice, but you can't use it as a "factual" statement against overcoming fears with therapy and/or that it actually works.

 

[Jenisautistic]

I sometimes feel like ever would to get to the point of hospitalization
Things would just go downhill. I would lose things and never be able to recover from that.

I just keep thinking about the past and like I can’t move on I keep missing the way to be even if they weren’t perfect.
I don’t know what to say except I feel so empty.

 

[WhitewaterWoman]

*hugs*

Feeling empty is just a feeling. It will go away on its own. You don’t have to act on it.

It sounds to me like you want help, but you are afraid if you ask for help you will be hospitalized.

 

[Jenisautistic]

*hugs*

Feeling empty is just a feeling. It will go away on its own. You don’t have to act on it.

It sounds to me like you want help, but you are afraid if you ask for help you will be hospitalized.

Yes that’s pretty much it

 

[Kayla55]

Kayla, you simply prove "expectation vs. reality." Also, though, you use the word "intense" which promotes the experience as kind of scary. What I said still rings true. Fear. You didn't overcome the fear well enough, and that's why you didn't progress on past it. Fear prevents people from opening up to others. You were afraid to do so with a therapist, but you chose who and what you aren't afraid of instead for comfort. There's nothing wrong with that because it's your personal choice, but you can't use it as a "factual" statement against overcoming fears with therapy and/or that it actually works.

Ye, I'm I think I realised not to raise my voice and long considerations
Sometimes moving on helps, learning to experience life and be happy, again. Not use asd as crutch for therapy bills, but getting a job, being out and creating social circles that are productive and vital in ones being.

 

[WhitewaterWoman]

Yes that’s pretty much it

If your parents or some other competent adult has guardianship over you, even if you are an adult, they can have you committed against your will. You need to know if your parents have guardianship over you.

If you are an adult, ie over 18 or 21 depending on your state, and not under guardianship, there are only certain situations where someone can put you in a hospital.

1. If you are in immediate danger of hurting yourself or others. That doesn’t mean saying “I feel empty and am thinking of killing myself.”
Just thinking about it is not a reason to lock you up.

2. Just saying “I hate my father and I’d like to kill him” is not enough to get you locked up. Now, if you say you’ve purchased a gun and plan to kill him when your mother goes grocery shopping today - that’s a little more concrete and might get you in trouble if you insisted this was your plan. If you backed down and said, I don’t really want to kill him, he just makes me mad. That’s different.

3. If you stop eating long enough to endanger your health, you could get committed.

4. If you are cutting yourself badly enough to require stitches, you could get committed.

5. If you try to cut or drop a new baby sister, that would get you committed. But if you say, I hate the new baby because she gets all the attention, that’s not going to get you committed.

Does this answer some of your questions?

 

[Jenisautistic]

If your parents or some other competent adult has guardianship over you, even if you are an adult, they can have you committed against your will. You need to know if your parents have guardianship over you.

If you are an adult, ie over 18 or 21 depending on your state, and not under guardianship, there are only certain situations where someone can put you in a hospital.

1. If you are in immediate danger of hurting yourself or others. That doesn’t mean saying “I feel empty and am thinking of killing myself.”
Just thinking about it is not a reason to lock you up.

2. Just saying “I hate my father and I’d like to kill him” is not enough to get you locked up. Now, if you say you’ve purchased a gun and plan to kill him when your mother goes grocery shopping today - that’s a little more concrete and might get you in trouble if you insisted this was your plan. If you backed down and said, I don’t really want to kill him, he just makes me mad. That’s different.

3. If you stop eating long enough to endanger your health, you could get committed.

4. If you are cutting yourself badly enough to require stitches, you could get committed.

5. If you try to cut or drop a new baby sister, that would get you committed. But if you say, I hate the new baby because she gets all the attention, that’s not going to get you committed.

Does this answer some of your questions?

I’m just saying that not that I would need it but if I ever did, it might not work and I would end up in a worse situation

Also so much trauma happened because of these places
It just might not be worth the trouble

And for seeing someone like a therapist, I’m open to that but
I’m just afraid that I won’t be able to be fully open or I will and I’ll get hospitalized

 

[WhitewaterWoman]

I’m just saying that not that I would need it but if I ever did, it might not work and I would end up in a worse situation

Also so much trauma happened because of these places
It just might not be worth the trouble

And for seeing someone like a therapist, I’m open to that but
I’m just afraid that I won’t be able to be fully open or I will and I’ll get hospitalized

I understand, Jen. These are scary things. I've had some trauma myself in those areas.

As far as seeing a therapist, you can take it slowly. Start with just the little things and see how she responds. If your abuser was/is male, I would suggest a female therapist. If the abuser was/is female, I would suggest a male therapist. Or someone who is nonbinary.

 

[Aspychata]

It's scary going to therapy, but you may really end up liking it.

 

[Shevek]

Hi everyone

I’m afraid to talk about my fears and trauma/ troubles because I don’t want to be misunderstood mistreated or at risk of hospitalization

I think that caution is very wise. The best therapist I had broke a lot of rules, including making new patients sign a legal paper, and acknowledged her limitations. PhD's are not allowed to say "I don't know."

 

[Kayla55]

NT can be fun, it's just at times the way phrase questions or make statements, unnerving.
De-sensitising is actually like becoming numb or suppressing asd emotions and can leave experience with less intensity, sort of boring. Maybe just stick to dating our own kind, or get over it, try be outgoing even if my usual way of leaving friendships in tangled mess, ah, I'm so messed up.