Naomi
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Are there any gay people with Asperger's, HFA or otherwise on the spectrum here? Because I'd definitely like to get some advice.
Figuring out if two straight people like each other has always struck me as complicated enough, but they can at least assume that they're talking to someone attracted to the opposite gender. Like, how do I tell if a girl is into the same gender? I can't just ask.
I'm asking because I'm remembering a while ago, I had a crush and told her that I thought she was cute. And she said 'that's nice', and I had no idea what she meant by that. It was embarrassing and while I'm not mad at her or anything, my feelings were still hurt. I mean, did she understand what I meant by that? Or did she just pretend not to understand? I was upset for a while after, wishing that she just acknowledged and rejected me instead of 'that's nice'.
I'm over it now, but recently I've started worrying that I'll never find love. I hear about it happening all the time, people who are in their thirties and have never dated anyone. That could be me. I'm already seventeen and lesbians, at most, make up about 5% of the population. The odds are against me. It sounds ridiculous, but that's what I worry about.
The only time I've ever 'dated' anyone was in my sophmore year, with a senior. That was mortifying on it's own because my friend set us up and the only thing we had in common was our sexual orientation. Plus I wasn't sure when to compliment her and how to respond to any sort of advances (I pulled away on instinct when she tried to hug me). It lasted for two weeks, and it ended by us just drifting apart, not any actual break-up.
Does anyone at least relate to this?
Figuring out if two straight people like each other has always struck me as complicated enough, but they can at least assume that they're talking to someone attracted to the opposite gender. Like, how do I tell if a girl is into the same gender? I can't just ask.
I'm asking because I'm remembering a while ago, I had a crush and told her that I thought she was cute. And she said 'that's nice', and I had no idea what she meant by that. It was embarrassing and while I'm not mad at her or anything, my feelings were still hurt. I mean, did she understand what I meant by that? Or did she just pretend not to understand? I was upset for a while after, wishing that she just acknowledged and rejected me instead of 'that's nice'.
I'm over it now, but recently I've started worrying that I'll never find love. I hear about it happening all the time, people who are in their thirties and have never dated anyone. That could be me. I'm already seventeen and lesbians, at most, make up about 5% of the population. The odds are against me. It sounds ridiculous, but that's what I worry about.
The only time I've ever 'dated' anyone was in my sophmore year, with a senior. That was mortifying on it's own because my friend set us up and the only thing we had in common was our sexual orientation. Plus I wasn't sure when to compliment her and how to respond to any sort of advances (I pulled away on instinct when she tried to hug me). It lasted for two weeks, and it ended by us just drifting apart, not any actual break-up.
Does anyone at least relate to this?