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Slime_Punk
Only if you want a really dumb one :D
Metalhead
Metalhead
You need confidence in your strengths. You have strengths that others can see clearly. Put faith in those, and you will be a chick magnet.
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VictorR
You should always be true to yourself. If you create a fake persona and someone falls in love with that persona, you'll have to keep on masking, but eventually, you'll burn out, revert to your natural self and things will simply become very very messy.
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Luca
Even if I was interested in men, a "bad boy" is one of the types I would absolutely not go for. Speaking as a woman, we like partners who respect and validate our feelings and have empathy.
Gerontius
Gerontius
I don't think so. The "bad boy" persona is fake. Most "nice guys" are never as nice as they say they are; they are just neck beards.
Gerontius
Gerontius
Six months in and I'm thinking girls actually like guys who communicate and who are honest, and who are taking care of themselves.
Gerontius
Gerontius
I didn't need a nice car, or stylish clothes. I got her by asking if she'd like to go have lunch and talk about an author we like (Oscar Wilde). And that was a nice day.
Gerontius
Gerontius
The whole "bad boy" idea also is the exact same alpha/beta Andrew Tate garbage that you have already indicated a righteous disdain for. Stick to your real self and keep improving.
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Owliet
You dont have to be a “bad boy” to attract a woman. Just like you dont need to be a “nice guy” either. Just be yourself, dont pretend to be something that you are not.
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Owliet
The whole “bad boy” image is actually neglectful at best, abusive at worst. Some women who believe that that is what they are after, actually regret it or have a toxic view point of themselves anyway.
Markness
Markness
@Owliet Sadly, the culture I live in pushes the “bad boy” and “Alpha Male” expectations since they are considered Biblical and in line with “American values.” The whole “Land of the free, home of the brave” belief. I think that’s partly why the women who love “bad boys” go for them.
Rodafina
Rodafina
What is a “bad boy” ?
Markness
Markness
@Rodafina They tend to be loud, aggressive, obnoxious, and treat women like they are sex toys.
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VictorR
@Markness - is that how you want your daughters, sisters, mothers, female cousins, neighbours and friends to be treated? I'll concede to not being well read in the bible, but I'm pretty sure it does not advocate for engaging in such behavior.
Gerontius
Gerontius
As someone who has been through the bible cover to cover--is acting like a bunch of Mesopotamian goatherders from 4,000 years ago the way we expect? Too much of the American "Christian" experience is rooted largely in pulling bible quotes to justify awfulness. The writings of Christ are contrary to the "bad boy" narrative--and if someone is a "Christian" and won't follow Christ, he's wasting his time.
Rodafina
Rodafina
@Markness
The culture all around you sounds really disheartening and unpleasant. I am glad you have access to the internet and get to live beyond your immediate surroundings a little bit.

Please don’t become a “bad boy,” they sound wretched.
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