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    Do I have to become like my older brother?

    In all likelihood, the reason your brother is more successful at dating is because he's more socially adept than you, not because of aggression, hostility or some other negative trait. Aspies notoriously struggle with social skills and non-verbal communication, which makes it more difficult to...
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    Things that sabotaged me in terms of romance and more

    It seems like you come from an avoidantly attached family. Learning about attachment styles will help you understand some of your difficulties. I don't think securely attached people have the kinds of difficulties we're having. This is a really good video. Not every point applies to every...
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    Still single

    If I recall correctly, the one girlfriend you briefly had, you met in a mental health support group. I think a support group is a good idea because you can be upfront about your situation around people who are likely also struggling with their own difficulties, and if someone appears...
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    I get that autism can make it difficult to make conversation and establish social connections...

    I get that autism can make it difficult to make conversation and establish social connections, but it's unreasonable to expect others to do all the heavy lifting socially. The nature of social interactions is reciprocity, and if one is unwilling to initiate social interactions, one ought not be...
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    It would behove you to look at it from other people's perspectives. What is going to motivate...

    It would behove you to look at it from other people's perspectives. What is going to motivate them to initiate a conversation with you? Especially if you're saying nothing and they have no idea what you'd even want to talk about.
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    Aspie or not, I'd say most people who know each other in a group context are going to prefer to...

    Aspie or not, I'd say most people who know each other in a group context are going to prefer to talk to the people they already know than initiate conversations with people they don't know, so if you're going to these gatherings expecting people to initiate conversations with you just because...
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    Put yourself in their shoes. If you were in their clique, would you be initiating conversations...

    Put yourself in their shoes. If you were in their clique, would you be initiating conversations with 'outsiders'? Or would you just want to have conversations with people you already know because it's easier, familiar and you already know what to talk about?
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    Buddy, I'm trying to help you here. I have empathy for your plight. I know what it's like to...

    Buddy, I'm trying to help you here. I have empathy for your plight. I know what it's like to feel like the outsider everywhere you go. I'm just trying to explain to you that waiting for other people to initiate conversation with you all the time is an ineffective social strategy, and will often...
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    It's unbecoming to accuse people of not being autistic when you don't know anything about them.

    It's unbecoming to accuse people of not being autistic when you don't know anything about them.
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    How many people did you approach at the park hangout? If none, why does it make sense to you to...

    How many people did you approach at the park hangout? If none, why does it make sense to you to expect people to approach you if you aren't willing to approach others?
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    Want to commit suicide any painless ways?

    Relationships that are started when both parties are content being single are probably generally better matches, because the relationship is born of a genuine connection rather than just a desire to have a relationship, but do you really think it's reasonable to expect a 45 year-old who has...
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    Greetings and Salutations

    HI, you can call me Wizardry. I'm a 26 year-old Australian man, diagnosed with asperger's syndrome in childhood. I learned about the existence of this site through my participation on other forums. I'm a very detail-oriented, introspective person who is interested in figuring out, learning...
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