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Recent content by vergil96

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    Sadism: help please!

    Isn't it more genetic and environmental than induced by trauma? Sociopathy is when someone grows up in an environment that promotes becoming a criminal. Psychopaths are born. One way or another, I don't quite understand why you don't put a stop on that. I can understand that bullying might be...
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    Autism & ADHD de-diagnosis

    I'm curious how that would work in coutries that don't have a uniform medical system. Does one provide the de-diagnosis to the employer or school? Or their healthcare providers? Without a uniform system, it doesn't seem to work, because if the reason is stigma, the same people like coworkers and...
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    Selective mutism: help please

    As for the opening post, I don't have any good advice. I also have some form of mutism, but it's not complete and it's not selective. Idk. I think the key question is if it's anxiety-related, sensory overwhelm or both. Because all of them require different solutions. Practice helps, but it's...
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    Selective mutism: help please

    I relate generally speaking, but for me a glimpse every now and then and in key moments is enough, and the usual intensity of eye contact is "too much of a good thing" for me if that makes sense. It becomes tiring in a too large amount and my tolerance and need for that is lower. I'm not the...
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    Selective mutism: help please

    Students are surprisingly sleepy or fucused during classes. If there is a more physically dynamic topic of the lab, it does drain me at the end of the day. I also "talk to the screen" while presenting on the computer, check works and solve problems on the board a lot.
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    I'm afraid of my diagnosis and it's driving me crazy.

    Schizotypal? That's unusual
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    Obesogens

    As a European, when I read what Americans say, the "quality of life" factor is quite low in the US compared to the EU or Australia. Having to drive everywhere, for example, no infrastructure for pedestrians, poor public transport. I walk and use the public transport quite a lot, even though I...
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    Selective mutism: help please

    I know I sound like I'm crazy, but the patterns on the iris can be quite distracting ir the little veins on the eye. [A very autistic thing to say] Also, the face moves an awful lot, I like to look something on the face or next to it that doesn't move as much as the area around the eyes. The...
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    Question about Time Blindness, maybe

    Now it doesn't happen any more, because I know I should just quit whatever I'm doing and go home or not leave, and my family and friends understand what is happening and that I need to cancel the plans, have a break and might not be very communicative. They even want to help and it's nice of...
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    Question about Time Blindness, maybe

    Well, it is strange that he didn't call you that it's going to take longer. I have been in similar situations in the sense that I was supposed to call someone, something went not like expected, I didn't call. The element that prevented me from calling was also the expectation of the other...
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    I'm afraid of my diagnosis and it's driving me crazy.

    If you haven't already and don't have enough experience with psychotherapy to be able to determine that, it would be best to go to psychological diagnosis to someone who specialises both in autism and personality disorders and be honest about your concerns. There are tools to determine whether...
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    what is genius, how do we measure it?

    I do not see someone as a genius unless it's someone like: Einstein Feynman Leibniz Euler Mozart Leonardo da Vinci Michaelangelo A person that has a natural aptitude for something significant and singlehandedly changes the discipline on a historical scale.
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    Realizing you're autistic, how'd you react?

    The diagnosis was an very unpleasant surprise for me. I started to doubt my own judgement and unneccesarily. I don't know if it was needed at all. It helped in the way that I got to learn about where my panic attacks come from (overstimulation - crowd, light, loud sounds etc.) and how to prevent...
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    Seriously, there is one type of person I have come to hate in NT and mental health circles.

    Yeah, that's the worst behaviour. I didn't come across it with mental health as an excuse, but other excuses: you're such a nag, you're stressing too much, just chill out, you're making it up, you're being aggressive (to tell someone not to actively cross my boundaries, yes). Unfortunately, the...
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    Should i try to get diagnosed?

    It all depends. I'm in an entirely different age group, but paper diagnosis was of no need for me too. I was just about to graduate from university and the students were treated like adults. If you did what you were supposed to, you were fine. I'm not sure how it would work in my job, it's not a...
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