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Tony Ramirez

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  • Lately only grandmother's have been approaching me for conversations.
    Rodafina
    Rodafina
    Do you ever ask the grandmothers for advice in dating? Grandmothers can be very wise people.
    tree
    tree
    90% of the women I encounter my age or younger are married or have boyfriends.
    Gerald Wilgus
    Gerald Wilgus
    So. You can either sulk, or you can learn to be engaging and really attempt a connection with the 10% who are not in a relationship.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    I have been doing that. At least having good conversations with them. But I am not you and can't ask them out on a date or anything like that.
    Gerald Wilgus
    Gerald Wilgus
    Think about it Tony. Those women would probably enjoy getting out with you. One of the hardest things for me was to get over the fear of rejection task women out. How would you feel if one accepted and you had a nice time out with her?
    I have not written in my journal in over a week. But things are still going on in my life. Been going to yoga. Even went one night. I went to someone's house for dinner. I went to a pumpkin festival in my neighborhood after church yesterday. Just too lazy to write about it.
    Most of my conversations with woman fizzle out so fast. So annoying. Why do I even bother to even attempt to speak to them?
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    Better.
    Gerald Wilgus
    Gerald Wilgus
    Like anything, keeping a conversation going is a skill you can learn. Do that and you will be on your way to learning to flirt with playful banter. It is OK to bring up earlier topics if the conversation flags, or try to riff off of what the other person is saying. Think about Jazz with its solos interspersed in the harmonies of the song.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    There is one Molly not the other Molly my age I can maintain an conversation with only if it's just me and her talking alone without inturuptions from other people.
    At the park event I was approached by two men and a couple and we had deep conversations because things like they are men or the woman is taken does not bother me anymore as much as it use too.
    S
    Slime_Punk
    That's so good to hear! I feel like this opens you up to meeting all sorts of new people, and you never know who they could also introduce you to!
    Rodafina
    Rodafina
    This is a wonderful realization that you’ve had, Tony. I hope it brings more friendships and connections into your life.
    I like my new therapist.
    Gerald Wilgus
    Gerald Wilgus
    That is wonderful, Tony. I was thinking of you positively when responding to a thread centered around emotional reactivity. I think you are finding that you have agency and will succeed.
    Asking for any girls number your friends with is hard. I could have done this with two girls this past week but the words would not come out of my mouth.
    Gerontius
    Gerontius
    I have found that most girls I was friends with were more than glad to exchange contact information, which keeps friendship actually functional. So most will probably want to actually keep in touch. It's helpful when you want to talk about hobbies not many men in your area share (reading, sewing) or about practical stuff.
    tree
    tree
    Would offering your own number/contact information work?
    Instead of asking for the girl's info?
    Gerald Wilgus
    Gerald Wilgus
    I'm with @tree on this one. While doing it, smile, say you enjoy your conversations and want to keep in touch.
    I learned my lesson again after being ignored all week. I have to approach woman for them to talk to me. I did that today after yoga class after asking a student how class was. She was new and kind. She liked the class and hopes to come again.
    Gerald Wilgus
    Gerald Wilgus
    You are learning and putting yourself out there. Keep up the good work!
    Yoga back in mornings on the weekdays. I will be going back to the gym in the afternoon next week when the weather gets cooler.
    Past two weeks I randomly ran into this woman who knows me from church I find out lives in my neighborhood. I ran into her today in the park after my yoga class. We chatted for a while but she was mostly studying. She said I hope to see you Sunday?
    I had trouble talking to woman as usual yesterday. There is this Asian guy who annoys me. He talks to woman and has long 15 to 20 minute conversations with them while I only exchange a few words and the conversations always fizzle out or I keep getting inturrupted. I finally gave up and left.
    tree
    tree
    Are you saying this other fellow was also having a conversation with this same person you wanted to talk to?

    Or what?
    V
    VictorR
    Is there a particular reason why you mentioned this person was "Asian"?
    Gerald Wilgus
    Gerald Wilgus
    You could have described the guy as friendly.
    Men need to stop wearing flip flops especially with shorts. I mean I like now. It's disgusting.
    tree
    tree
    Why the heavy judgements on casual warm weather foot gear?
    Nobody is forcing others to follow suit, right?
    So, why not just go with the thought that if it's comfortable and safe for other people
    to wear flip flops (or crocs), it's their choice?
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    I actually get sick to the stomach when I see men wear them. I get turned on when I see women wear them.
    tree
    tree
    So you like to see women's feet. Find it sexy.
    You know, seeing a man's foot wouldn't turn you gay.
    It doesn't work that way.
    Went to the doctor. My blood pressure is low because my quack mental doctor put me on a high dosage of blood pressure pill to suppose to control face masks which it does not. My real doctor said to reduce it then to eventually stop talking it.
    Temporary space is a no go. All classes are now canceled at the yoga studio for the rest of the month until they move to the new space next month they still don't have.
    tree
    tree
    You sometimes go to a gym, don't you?
    Does the gym have floor space where you could
    do yoga?
    Still feel weak again today. Going to see my doctor this week I been seeing since I was a teenager.
    tree
    tree
    Did you get in for an appointment with your doctor this week?
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    This Monday at 2:30 pm.
    I have an annoying habit of standing too close to others. Especially when waiting to talk to someone.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    Generally next to them but not on top of them.
    Rodafina
    Rodafina
    I have the opposite problem, @Tony Ramirez. I stand so far away from people that they don’t even know I am waiting to talk to them. Awareness is key. We could take a cue from others and watch how closely to each other they stand.
    tree
    tree
    @Tony Ramirez
    That didn't really tell me the distance.
    What I was asking for was an estimate in feet or inches.
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