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    Neurodivergent: Redefining Self-Worth as Strategic Self-Preservation

    Related to this, a study of autistic doctors found that thinking of themselves as an "autistic doctor" rather than "doctor with autism" was linked to thinking of autism as a difference rather than a disability, and to better mental health. On one hand, this could mean that people who accepted...
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    Socializing at Work Becomes Draining

    What @Neonatal RRT said! It's the other way around for me. I also work in healthcare, and I loathe speaking to patients. I'm sure they're all lovely people, but it stresses me out. I think it's because the interactions are less predictable than with colleagues. However, I do have one colleague...
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    Thanks for the welcome-Not Autistic-

    Oh yes... I have an excellent long-term memory. I can remember facts from years ago, and I'm good at building up diagrams of related facts and procedures. Short term memory? Not so much. If you ask me to do something and I don't write it down, five seconds later I will have forgotten it...
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    Thanks for the welcome-Not Autistic-

    (And a lot of explaining things to an autistic kid will probably involve saying things like, "This makes absolutely no sense, but it's a rule. Other people think it's important because... If you don't obey the rule, then X, Y, or Z might happen. So if you don't want any of those to happen, try...
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    Thanks for the welcome-Not Autistic-

    I know nothing about kids, but from personal experience and what I've read, the key to getting autistic people to understand rules is to explain why the rule exists. Because otherwise, it's just a random thing that you have to memorise, and a person only has so much memory to go around. Things...
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    Married Autistics, Where Did You Meet Your Spouse...?

    Nope. He's about as neurotypical as it's possible to get. He likes people. He gets on with pretty much everybody. He's one of those nice people that, if you don't like him, it says more about you than about him. We're opposites in a lot of ways, but it works for us because we fill in each...
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    Married Autistics, Where Did You Meet Your Spouse...?

    Met my husband in the territorial army (reserves) - I was transferring to his unit. We got engaged three months later, by which point it was so obvious we were going to get married it was getting difficult to remember to say "if" instead of "when". I didn't last in the reserves (too autistic...
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    "Autistic inertia," does this concept ring a bell to anyone?

    I think monotropism also explains why I can listen to someone or look at them, but not both. And why I loathe video "explainers" unless it really needs to be video. My employer has jumped on the band-wagon of "everyone wants video!" so even things that should really be done as a text document...
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    I find my life has no point currently.

    Some of them definitely are! :D Sometimes, you just need something that takes you out of your life and all its crapness, that isn't demanding anything from you, even rational thought!
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    I find my life has no point currently.

    The first step to solving any problem is to acknowledge it exists! Second step is to define it correctly. What does gay porn manga give you? And can you get that elsewhere? Sometimes a person does need something that's just mind candy, to function as something to make your mind do, to stop...
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    Is there always a tendency towards math or other pronounced interests in people with autism?

    There's a tendency towards "pronounced interests", but it doesn't have to be maths or anything science/maths/technology-related. Autism in girls gets missed a lot because they're just as obsessed/passionate as boys about their special interests, but it gets ignored because a) girls tend to be...
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    Remote workers, represent!

    I work remotely. Took me about five minutes to get used to it. Now I wouldn't go back. No commute. No having to sit in an office trying not to rip someone's head off for being an idiot. Or patronising. The logistics of life just get easier.
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    Polite ways to avoid work socialising

    Giving people the benefit of the doubt is usually a good idea (until there isn't any doubt). Most people have good intentions, and if you have good intentions it's hurtful to be treated as if you don't. Plus, people who organise social events are usually people who enjoy socialising. And they...
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    Polite ways to avoid work socialising

    Sometimes, neurotypicals try to pressure you into attending social events because "you'll enjoy it (when you're there)" or "it's good for you to get out of your shell", not because they are deliberately trying to make you do something that will stress you out. And if you've usually gone for...
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    The graphics outside are horrible

    I opened and closed the window. That seemed to help, at least with the temperature element.
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