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Recent content by Tiffany Kate

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    Polite ways to avoid work socialising

    Giving people the benefit of the doubt is usually a good idea (until there isn't any doubt). Most people have good intentions, and if you have good intentions it's hurtful to be treated as if you don't. Plus, people who organise social events are usually people who enjoy socialising. And they...
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    Polite ways to avoid work socialising

    Sometimes, neurotypicals try to pressure you into attending social events because "you'll enjoy it (when you're there)" or "it's good for you to get out of your shell", not because they are deliberately trying to make you do something that will stress you out. And if you've usually gone for...
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    The graphics outside are horrible

    I opened and closed the window. That seemed to help, at least with the temperature element.
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    The graphics outside are horrible

    Bishop George Berkeley was there first: he believed that reality consisted of ideas in the mind of God. (Which potentially explains sunsets: God has found the psychedelics.)
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    The graphics outside are horrible

    The contrast on mine has been off for ages - everything's been sort of grey, no matter what I did. Now it's suddenly changed to bright colours again, and I don't know why. I didn't touch anything. Also, the thermostat seems to have gone wonky at the same time and the temperature has gone up by...
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    The Black Pearl story

    The person (or sheep) who steps off the beaten track or sets the trend is the bellwether. Originally, you put a bell on the lead wether in your flock of sheep so you could find the flock even when they were out of sight.
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    I need cheering to reduce work hours

    I was told, "Work isn't fun. If it was fun, it would be entertainment, and you'd have to buy tickets." Then there's the old quote, "Nobody on their deathbed ever said, 'I wish I'd spent more time in the office'." Life is for living - for doing things you enjoy, being with people you love, and...
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    What Do You Love About Winter?

    When there are those bright, cold high-pressure winter days where everything is coated in white, and the air is crystal clear and silky smooth. You can see for miles. Everything looks like a Christmas card, and it's fantastic. Just wear lots of layers, three pairs of gloves, and break out the...
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    Do you have difficulty remembering names of people?

    Yep. And faces are worse. When I first started in one of my jobs, it was ages before I figured out that two particular guys were actually not the same person. And even longer (once I worked out I wasn't seeing the same person twice as often) to be able to tell them apart. They don't even look...
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    Struggling with eating enough during work

    ...And if you are not doing something that you want to do, then the thing to do is think about it and unpack exactly why you are not doing it. If "just do it, then" worked, you'd presumably have already "just done it". For instance, after that one time I completely forgot to go to the dentist...
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    Married but have parallel lives...

    Communication. If your husband is autistic and working two jobs, as others have said, he may have reached the maximum capacity of what he can physically cope with. And once a person has reached their maximum capacity, they can't cope with any more - no matter how much they might want to, other...
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    Hi, new member, NT, joined because I’m having problems with one of my brothers with ASD Level 1 (aka Asperger’s).

    I'd say a couple of things. Firstly, it may or may not be the case that your brother had a different growing-up experience to you. Being the only autistic/Asperger's person in the family can be difficult - sometimes especially if you are undiagnosed. People expect you to behave like a...
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    What was the last thing you cooked?

    Finally made muesli (which just involves mixing stuff together). BUT TODAY I MADE SWISS ROLL! :)
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    Do I have to become like my older brother?

    No. Absolutely not. I can't speak for other women, but for me, a man like you describe your brother to be wouldn't have got a second date if - by some miracle - I'd had a moment and granted him a first date. My husband is one of the quiet ones, and I wouldn't swap him for anyone. There's a...
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    Any of you not able to make friends? I know I very rarely make friends.

    I came across this quote yesterday: “If you go out looking for friends, you're going to find they are very scarce. If you go out to be a friend, you'll find them everywhere.” (Zig Ziglar) It was in a book about influencing other people, rather than making friends, but it's one of those things...
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