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Recent content by Shamar

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    Adapting to New Realities

    Suddenly it makes sense. I noticed you seemed to respond and post at times when most Australians would be asleep. I started wondering about that. I frequently notice and wonder about patterns (I am compelled, almost obsessed, with finding matching patterns in veneer facing brick and and...
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    Shorter than short?

    I used to be a docent at Dinosaur Ridge near Denver, We had a diplodocus skull skull mounted high on a post in the museum. I made a set of vertebra to run down the post to the floor. People took pictures of their children standing next to it to measure them in dinosaur vertebra.
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    Why would my ex boyfriend tell me to fix my autism symptoms in order for him to have the patience for me?

    Heavy metals do not and have never caused autism. A heavy metal cleanse to cure autism is like removing the appendix to fix a broken leg. The only thing seems to help is paying someone a lot of money to traumatize you into fearing to exhibit autism. You will never be the same again and have...
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    The question if diagnostic criteria for Autism Spectrum Disorder should change a little to be more accurate

    Proved years ago that parenting had nothing to do with it. Otherwise, your logic is good. Sounds like maybe a less traumatic version of ABA.
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    Interesting Commentary On Microsoft Windows' Rise- And Fall

    Yes, as graphics improved, games got more and more realistic and gritty, and suddenly, they were no longer entertaining or FUN. Yet, so many gamers grew up with this they think this is the way it is supposed to be. Bring back games that are entertaining and fun. About the only game I play any...
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    The question if diagnostic criteria for Autism Spectrum Disorder should change a little to be more accurate

    The way I see it, the world is neck deep in idiots.
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    Interesting Commentary On Microsoft Windows' Rise- And Fall

    I am staying with windows 10 until I get Ubuntu fully installed and working properly. I refuse to install Windows 11, partly because it won't install into my not very old computer, but mainly because I consider myself a customer, and I refuse to be a resource.
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    The question if diagnostic criteria for Autism Spectrum Disorder should change a little to be more accurate

    Seems to me, more of them getting shot is the only thing that will lead to improvement. When DSM-V came out, my only reaction was that it was simplified, de-offensivized, and politically corrected to the point of near uselessness. Eliminating Asperger's, despite clear difference to other forms...
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    The question if diagnostic criteria for Autism Spectrum Disorder should change a little to be more accurate

    I went to several psychologists and psychologists (as well as counselors, therapists, and other mental health professional), not one suspected autism, despite my presenting them with what looked like the diagnostic criteria. Now, when I see a new one, I test them to see they recognize my...
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    The question if diagnostic criteria for Autism Spectrum Disorder should change a little to be more accurate

    While I was diagnosed at age 60, I can state specifically and distinctly that in early childhood (age 3), I was non social, I could not figure out people (neither peers nor adults), I had no friends, and I preferred to be by myself. My behavior remained the same through late childhood, early...
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    Is anybody else excited by the upcoming movie - Project Hail Mary?

    Mixed feelings. Hollywood has a long and glorious history of butchering good stories. Admittedly, they did an excellent job with The Martian, but given their history, it may be too much to ask for two in a row.
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    Realizing you're autistic, how'd you react?

    I want them, I crave them, I get suicidal without them.
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    Realizing you're autistic, how'd you react?

    You are fairly new here, so perhaps a bit of context is in order. Besides autism and AD(no H)D, I suffer from social phobia (think social anxiety on steroids) and anthrophobia (fear of people, especially crowded places). In addition, things like body language, facial expression, innuendo or...
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    Realizing you're autistic, how'd you react?

    I realized at some level long before I was diagnosed that I was incapable of having friends or feeling love. I kept trying, but halfheartedly with an expectation of no results. A lifetime of fear, walls, and being constantly knocked down did me in. The diagnosis and realization merely...
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    Books on understanding and befriending people with low self-esteem?

    The Carnegie book was written for NTs, and people who are capable of communicating (and actually having friendships). I read it, and found it nearly useless because it assumed capabilities I did not have. If you are not capable of basic socializing, the book is pretty much useless, as you...
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