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Recent content by Shamar

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    Weird Time Zones

    I remember Adelaide time was off by 1/2 hour. That half hour almost caused me to miss a flight in Sidney. And then driving across the Nullarbor, there was an area that was off by 15 minutes. Weird.
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    Is it weird that I never want to see a therapist, counselor or physiatrist because I don't want them telling me how to feel?

    Many people have low self esteem, but nobody DESERVES to have it. Why do you think you deserve it?
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    I have a new 4 legged companion in my life now

    Congratulations. Rescues seem to be much more appreciative than bred dogs. One time walking in the desert I found 4 puppies, about 2 weeks, covered with ticks, by the side of the road. I put hem in a box, gave them water, and took them to a shelter. I could not keep one at the time, but the...
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    Hyperfixating on something and the depression that comes after

    I spend half my time in a fictional fantasy world (actually, several). Fortunately, recognize them as such and can leave whenever needed.
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    Terrible Super Powers

    An exhaustive knowledge of things nobody is interested in or wants to know about (How many of us actually have this superpower?). The ability to be invisible, as long as nobody is looking at you (I may have this superpower as well; I seem to be invisible even when people ARE looking at me)...
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    Is it weird that I never want to see a therapist, counselor or physiatrist because I don't want them telling me how to feel?

    Been there. I have not seen a therapist in years. They tell me how I am supposed to feel, but give no advice about how to achieve that feeling. Or they will say something like "How does that make you feel?" knowing full well I am mostly incapable of feelings. It's like they are going through...
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    Fully Exhausted My Romantic Partner

    Sounds more like your partner is exhausting you. And doesn't appreciate it or care in the slightest.
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    Realizing you're autistic, how'd you react?

    Like a lot of people responded, I was a bit shocked. And, like others, I accepted it pretty quickly because it explained so much (the bad parts) of my life. It was a relief to stop masking and be myself. I don't blame God, but I blame a lot of others. Teachers, who knew or suspected there...
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    Valentine Day plans?

    Sounds agonizingly familiar. Emphasis on agonizingly.
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    I feel lonely?

    I feel for you. I really do. What you describe is very much my own life. Your observations are correct, socializing and just being really are easier for most people. Notice I said most people. There are some who are not in that category. You will find some right here. This forum is the...
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    Traveling questions (guided tours?)

    Sounds like you really need a specialty travel agent. Some people are good with solo travel, some are not. You fit in the latter group. I hardly travel since retirement, but during my career, I was always being sent to places I'm not sure even existed. Usually accommodations would be...
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    Valentine Day plans?

    Celebrate Valentines Day? You mean that day where people celebrate their love and devotion to each other? ME? That has never happened, and never will. For many years, that was a day of pain, loneliness, and longing. A mocking slap on the face. Now that I have things figured out, it is a...
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    New to this, figuring out and accepting who I am

    You will find that many of us here were diagnosed or realized later in life that we were autistic. And that once you learn about it, you realize your life becomes understandable. In other words, they were manipulating you and taking advantage of you. I lived that lie trying to fit in for...
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    Saltwater Crocodiles

    The fish is a reaction to people judging me for what I couldn't do, rather than what I could do. As in judging a fish by it's ability to climb a tree rather than it's ability to swim.
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    Seriously, there is one type of person I have come to hate in NT and mental health circles.

    I know exactly what you mean. I suspect many of these people are not autistic or ADHD, but simply claiming it to use as an excuse. I have never blamed my autism or ADHD for my failures or mistakes. I simply state "I failed" and proceed to rectify the problem. On another forum, there was an...
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