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Recent content by PinkPhilodendron

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    Dating advice

    I am not very good at this either, but there are a few things that you can do I believe. 1: people seem to have an emotional baseline. So if she differs from that baseline something either very good or something bad is occupying her (being louder or quieter than usual, or being more rude or...
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    Thank you! - relationship status

    Takk :)
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    Question how scientists solve such profoundly complex equations

    It's just logic. You learn the rules and then it's all just like 2+2. How phantom said, you train logic by doing mathematical proofs and then at some point you just use math like a scalpel for dissecting the world as a surgeon would dissect a frog (just not as messy).
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    Thank you! - relationship status

    Hey guys, I just want to give you guys some update on that guy I was crazy about one year ago. I posted about it here and you helped me alot. I don't think I would have been able to pursue things without your pointers and your positive motivation. We are dating since September now :) So thank...
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    Looking for Advice: Autistic Husband with NT Wife

    You are not entitled to a woman, as we are beings not things. If you want a partner you have to work for it, nobody expects you to go through life alone. But the world owes you nothing, so stop blaming women for your lack of internal motivation to change your own situation. The only person...
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    Continuous Struggle

    Have you thought about changing your therapist? No progress is not really acceptable for 16 years of therapy, actually there should be progress after only a few months. I can't imagine being in therapy so long. I was already exhausted after 3 years. Please don't misunderstand, I think that the...
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    Continuous Struggle

    Do you feel like you progressed since 2006?
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    Continuous Struggle

    Well it's not about being good at something. It's about enjoying to do something, without the pressure to perform. Just for fun. But it seems like you feel that pressure with drawing and making music. So until you learn to let go of that pressure you can just pause those activities, that's...
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    Continuous Struggle

    The focus would be on doing something actively that does not depress you. It's good you know that the hobbies you tried out don't work for you, it means you can differentiate between things that frustrate you and things that don't. Just stick to things that don't for so long until you feel a...
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    Continuous Struggle

    Markness, you seem to be in a dark place. When I get lost in dark places I force myself to stop thinking and to do something I usually enjoy, like painting or playing the guitar or going out and looking at trees. It must be something active not passive (like TV watching). Only when I am not...
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    Looking for Advice: Autistic Husband with NT Wife

    Hello and welcome! I am sure there are things you can do, but it might also be good to know the boundaries of what you can do so you and your wife can accept those and prevent more frustration. I personally feel the disability strongest when dealing with emotional issues.. As I have only...
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    Is she sabotaging our relationship ?

    I feel like I might be coming here a bit late, but after reading some stuff I want to share my experiences. I did act similar to that woman when I was younger. I was a flirty type though I did not realise that flirting was what I was doing. But with guys I really liked, well, feelings...
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    Do I have to fake I like humans in order to cooperate with them?

    An insult is something different than honesty. An insult hurts people, always. Honesty does so sometimes but not necessarily and is affected by wording. Saying you like to be insulted is like saying you like to be kicked in the face. If you are masochistic that's of course possible.
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    Do women really need ‘gentlemen’?

    Being kind and thoughtful and I think the word is "suave" is never a bad thing :) Thank you for being like that. Don't doubt yourself.
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    Do women really need ‘gentlemen’?

    I enjoy it when men hold the door for me, when I get flowers. I also hold the door for men, and they enjoy it too. I definitely expect my partner to do the heavy lifting (if he is stronger - as then it is easier for him) and I expect him to notice when I struggle and then to help me. All those...
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