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Recent content by paloftoon

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    Lack of eye contact in public

    Lack of eye contact can be okay, but when you look down, it means we are generally not confident about ourselves. If we don't make eye contact but look eye level at other things, this would be best. It may be best to focus on doing things that can build our self confidence.
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    Still waiting for a first date..

    Try a towel!
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    Still waiting for a first date..

    Don't wait. Look for platonic friends and work on yourself. If you're okay with apps, try apps if you haven't already. If you aren't independent, this can help with potential eligibility a lot. Work on skills to help you become more independent.
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    New app telling which men to avoid

    I try to stay away from these type of sites. I might be tempted by some of the sexy looking pics at random, but we probably won't know most of the people and we want our own experiences. Not depend on people on the Internet where we haven't talked with them 1-1 and don't have any idea about so...
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    I think I can see where a lot of my “worst possible outcome” thinking comes from.

    As for the cleaning of the home, is she capable to help you out? If she's capable to help you out, does it tend to be overimposing? A few of my own relatives have been like this. They used to clean my place without asking even, and I considered additional locks, but it wasn't worth the...
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    I think I can see where a lot of my “worst possible outcome” thinking comes from.

    I saw a Veggie Straws commercial and thought of this post today. I found this thread right away in the search function. My mind was telling me that if your mother maybe didn’t surprise you, and if she told you straight out that she has these Veggie Straw chips that she’d like you to try that...
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    Gay Aspies and Dating

    I fit the lgbt aspie stereotype, I am also non-White and non-religious, but I do not struggle with crowds or noise. I do not care for crowds, and I quietly like the bumping and grinding of hot looking men on me if they aren't trying to hurt me, lol. I definitely struggle with the race...
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    Why Men Are Walking Away From Dating

    Maybe some men go gay or bi because of what is said in the video. Or consider benefits only. Because sexual urges in some don't just "go away" lol.
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    Life has been hell

    I would suggest continue to look for programs that work specifically with disabilities. Jobs through there, you definitely should disclose your disability, and won't face the same issues you face now overall. There will be problems, but they will be different. Getting hired through enrolling...
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    I am gay and I hate it when people ask me this question.

    It wasn't rash of you. Her question was highly offensive. I'm sure you already knew. If she really wasn't a homophobe and said that, that would be surprising and unexpected, but you would know and wouldn't have mentioned it on here if so. You would know more than any of us here.
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    Should I Even Bother?

    Say that you sell on e-bay or wherever you volunteer, even if it's only once a month or one day a week, you can say you work there. Maybe consider volunteering for a convention- you can say you work for that convention and do work remotely and at the convention. The logistics and specifics -...
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    OK, this is a reason why I should die right here.

    This is one strategy you can try. It could be more than tiring to do this. It's easier to try to change your situation internally. If you want to switch managers and possibly can like I suggested, if there's an HR department, talk to the HR person about your situation. Could HR be more...
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    OK, this is a reason why I should die right here.

    Maybe send something written by e-mail (or even hand written), have a trusted colleague check your writing over beforehand if possible, if possible, try to get a different manager and/or look for another job to deal with this mishap that happened. Your manager doesn't understand real life- as...
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    Social dating boundary questions

    I asked P another question unrelated to the above and that basically shut off the friendship. While he didn't block me, there was unmatching and I was "okay" with that. it felt kinda weird to be "matched" to a second account with the same person's adventure on their dealing with a sickness- as...
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    Social dating boundary questions

    Surprising update. My friend, P, did get back to me now and simply said that O seemed real nice and that I would get along with him. Then, I asked him if they met in-person or ever did a video chat and they met in-person. So, I ended up blocking the mutual contact, O, we had. Then, my gut...
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