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    Gay Aspies and Dating

    I fit the lgbt aspie stereotype, I am also non-White and non-religious, but I do not struggle with crowds or noise. I do not care for crowds, and I quietly like the bumping and grinding of hot looking men on me if they aren't trying to hurt me, lol. I definitely struggle with the race...
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    Why Men Are Walking Away From Dating

    Maybe some men go gay or bi because of what is said in the video. Or consider benefits only. Because sexual urges in some don't just "go away" lol.
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    Life has been hell

    I would suggest continue to look for programs that work specifically with disabilities. Jobs through there, you definitely should disclose your disability, and won't face the same issues you face now overall. There will be problems, but they will be different. Getting hired through enrolling...
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    I am gay and I hate it when people ask me this question.

    It wasn't rash of you. Her question was highly offensive. I'm sure you already knew. If she really wasn't a homophobe and said that, that would be surprising and unexpected, but you would know and wouldn't have mentioned it on here if so. You would know more than any of us here.
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    Should I Even Bother?

    Say that you sell on e-bay or wherever you volunteer, even if it's only once a month or one day a week, you can say you work there. Maybe consider volunteering for a convention- you can say you work for that convention and do work remotely and at the convention. The logistics and specifics -...
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    OK, this is a reason why I should die right here.

    This is one strategy you can try. It could be more than tiring to do this. It's easier to try to change your situation internally. If you want to switch managers and possibly can like I suggested, if there's an HR department, talk to the HR person about your situation. Could HR be more...
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    OK, this is a reason why I should die right here.

    Maybe send something written by e-mail (or even hand written), have a trusted colleague check your writing over beforehand if possible, if possible, try to get a different manager and/or look for another job to deal with this mishap that happened. Your manager doesn't understand real life- as...
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    Social dating boundary questions

    I asked P another question unrelated to the above and that basically shut off the friendship. While he didn't block me, there was unmatching and I was "okay" with that. it felt kinda weird to be "matched" to a second account with the same person's adventure on their dealing with a sickness- as...
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    Social dating boundary questions

    Surprising update. My friend, P, did get back to me now and simply said that O seemed real nice and that I would get along with him. Then, I asked him if they met in-person or ever did a video chat and they met in-person. So, I ended up blocking the mutual contact, O, we had. Then, my gut...
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    Social dating boundary questions

    I think this is what is happening exactly, yes! I just asked him this question last night- so some time to process this is relevant and time I should give him. It's a slightly awkward position to be in because if I'm going to continue to be friends with him, and if he is friends with...
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    Social dating boundary questions

    There is this person I matched with, P we’ll call him, where we are both on the spectrum. However, our distance is significant, he doesn’t have a good job where we could split a hotel if I was visiting him at some point (as he lives with his family and I do not), with the distance, I don’t...
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    Does she like me?

    She is definitely interested in you. Most NTs don’t want to be direct because it sounds immature and childish and it could ruin the attraction for some people. They want to know that you can figure things out. Her mention of marriage is supposed to be a metaphor. She is significantly older...
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    A year and nothing has changed

    I don't like letting go of stuff either. You could try to sell some clothes that you think someone else might like if you either hardly wear them or if you sense that you've worn them too much (if that is a possible thing for you or even for myself lol.) Start with one shirt only. If you sell...
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    Attempts To Obtain A Job

    Do you drive and do you live near a big city? If you don't live near a big city, would you/could you consider moving to one such place? If you don't drive, but want to and you feel like you would be able to handle the logistics involved in driving (building up to deal with speed of a car...
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    Attempts To Obtain A Job

    In terms of your former employment ruining your chances, that is possible. Best way to fix this is to build your background up by going to school if that is an option, volunteering somewhere once a week to have some kind of experience at all rather than do nothing at all, or take on a low...
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