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Recent content by Matthias

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    Meetup.com needs to be banned.

    I think it's great that you're taking steps to improve your life, such as volunteering at two community gardens. I'm glad you enjoy it. I understand your need to avoid parks and meetup groups because you get triggered there. However, do you know there is proven therapy available to eliminate...
  2. M

    Meetup.com needs to be banned.

    It wasn't my intention to put you down Tony but to let you know there is much you can do to improve your situation.
  3. M

    Meetup.com needs to be banned.

    I noticed the only person you never blame for your problems is yourself. It's always someone or something else - college, women, the universe, etc. In reality, college did not ruin your life. You ruined your life by thinking negatively, blaming others for your problems, and making bad choices...
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    Trying to be nicer to people?

    Thinking positively and seeing the good in others will definitely make it easier to be nicer to people. I remember reading that you found out many of your negative perceptions of others turned out to be incorrect. If you keep reminding yourself of this when you think someone is giving you a hard...
  5. M

    I think people posting stuff you don't want to hear triggers painful emotions, which then...

    I think people posting stuff you don't want to hear triggers painful emotions, which then affects your thinking and leads you to believe people hate you. If these emotions weren't affecting your thoughts, I don't think you would feel like anyone here hates you.
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    I have no friends. No, I can't make new ones. I tried and it's making me mentally insane.

    There are 3 reasons I think people mention talking to your therapist: 1. Most of us aren't experts in mental health. Therapists should be more knowledgeable than us and better able to help you. 2. Besides therapy, therapists often know about resources in your community that could be helpful...
  7. M

    I have no friends. No, I can't make new ones. I tried and it's making me mentally insane.

    I can see how that would be a problem. Have you tried going to a senior center or nursing home?
  8. M

    I have no friends. No, I can't make new ones. I tried and it's making me mentally insane.

    All of them? They aren't any people with mental problems who don't smoke, drink, or swear? How many meetup groups for the mentally ill have you attended? How many group therapy sessions have you attended? I've met plenty of mentally ill people who don't smoke, swear, or get drunk.
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    I have no friends. No, I can't make new ones. I tried and it's making me mentally insane.

    @Tony Ramirez No one here hates you. We're all trying to help. Is there something wrong with older people? I know you may not have as much in common, but a friend is a friend, right? Isn't that better than nothing, especially if you're extremely lonely? As far as others who are mentally ill...
  10. M

    I have no friends. No, I can't make new ones. I tried and it's making me mentally insane.

    Most people your age work 40 to 70 hours a week and have a spouse and children to take care of which means they have very little time left over to spend with friends. Because of that, they want to spend their valuable free time with the people they feel the best around. For most people, that...
  11. M

    How can you confidently determine if you have ASD?

    Not likely. Brain scans can't reliably diagnose ASD, partly because many differences also occur in people with other conditions (primarily mental disorders and social isolation).
  12. M

    I have no friends. No, I can't make new ones. I tried and it's making me mentally insane.

    This is a clear sign that these "friends" (probably more accurately described as acquaintances) are out of your league. The fact that they respond and talk to you at all indicates that they like you, which is good enough to be an acquaintance. However, they're likely too far out of your league...
  13. M

    I'm glad you went out and found something to improve your mood.

    I'm glad you went out and found something to improve your mood.
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  14. M

    You're probably not going to get better until you realize your problems are mostly...

    You're probably not going to get better until you realize your problems are mostly self-inflicted. Normal, everyday things that happen to everyone seem to cause you intense distress due to your extremely negative and distorted thinking. Therapy can help, but only if you're willing to change.
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  15. M

    I've never seen you post any evidence that any woman hates you. Women not talking to you just...

    I've never seen you post any evidence that any woman hates you. Women not talking to you just means they're not interested in you. It does not mean that they hate you.
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