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Recent content by Matthias

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    Is it a bad thing if I feel because my low self esteem that I feel I should have praise, sympathy or encouragement due to my illness?

    There's nothing wrong with having a low self-esteem but it can prevent you from feeling better when you accomplish something or when others compliment you, which can make you less happy. Low self-esteem can also discourage you from taking risks that could improve your life as you might think...
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    Do any of you have trouble making friends not online but in everywhere real life?

    Social anxiety is a major impediment to making friends, which is why many people with social anxiety end up lonely and depressed. If you want friends, you're going to have to overcome it. Here's what helped me: 1. Make a list of social interactions that cause anxiety. Then, rate them on a scale...
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    What were you expecting? People to get out of their car and provide free on the spot therapy...

    What were you expecting? People to get out of their car and provide free on the spot therapy? Agree to go out on a date with you? Acting out in public sends a message that you're emotionally disturbed. People are likely staying away because they're afraid you'll harm them. If you want friends...
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    Giving up making friends. Giving up finding a girlfriend. Giving up on life.

    Have you tried reading books about psychology (also known as self-help books)? If you search on Amazon and sort price from low to high, you can often get a few of these books for free (Only the Kindle edition is free but you can read it on any device). Here are 2 books I found that are 100%...
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    Giving up making friends. Giving up finding a girlfriend. Giving up on life.

    I know it's not easy but I think you only have 3 realistic options: 1. Relationships with people that are much less desirable than you prefer (such as those you described) 2. Work harder to overcome your mental health problems (intense treatment, self-help books, etc.) 3. Get used to being...
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    Giving up making friends. Giving up finding a girlfriend. Giving up on life.

    @Tony Ramirez You seem to have a selfish or distorted view of how relationships work because you constantly search for relationships with people who are waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay out of your league while shunning relationships with people who are in your league (such as the mentally ill...
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    Queerly Autistic

    Using that logic, if I identify as a cat, I am at cat. If I identify as God, I am God.
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    Queerly Autistic

    The difference is that autism, like LGB, is clearly defined and clearly exists. Anyone can look up the diagnostic criteria for autism or consult a dictionary for LGB to know what those labels mean and whether they apply to them. Without precise definitions for "male" and "female", it's...
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    Queerly Autistic

    Since this book purports to be an "ultimate guide" for LGBTQIA+ issues, I'd like to know how it answers a couple simple and basic questions: 1. How does it define the word "male" or "female." I ask this because it seems impossible for anyone to know or confirm their gender identity without...
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    I Got A Problem I Would Like To Confess

    I don't think there's anything wrong with being serious, competitive, or confrontational unless it's abnormally excessive. I think some people are too serious because they're out of touch with their emotions, too competitive because they're insecure and feel like they need to be successful to...
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    Can it be?

    I got a bit carried away when I responded. It's probably because I've heard people emphasize making a great effort and when I asked what they did they were like "I saw one therapist 20 years ago and it didn't work so I gave up. I dated 1 person who didn't like me so I concluded there aren't any...
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    Neurotypical wife here with aspergers husband

    Many people with autism have very low emotional intelligence that contributes to relationship difficulties. Getting your husband a self-help book about emotional intelligence can greatly improve your marriage if he's willing to read it and wants to get better. CBT and other forms of...
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    I Got A Problem I Would Like To Confess

    Those are all mental problems. Reading self-help books to improve your emotional intelligence can help you eliminate every problem you mentioned.
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    Hello

    The difficulties you described are likely caused by childhood emotional neglect. It may be hard to believe your dedicated parents had neglected you but social connection is an essential need and not meeting this need (regardless of the reason) is neglect (which is often unintentional). I...
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    Can it be?

    You say you try very hard. It would help to know what you tried and what were the results. For example - How many hours do you spend each day socializing and how do people react when you talk to them? What do you usually discuss with your co-workers and other acquaintances? What clubs or groups...
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