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Recent content by Kathos

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    Recognizing a cold shoulder

    Does anyone else have trouble recognizing when someone is upset with them? I might notice cold body language and expressions but often chalk it up to the person is busy, isn't in the mood to chat or has to be somewhere. I know I can appear that way often so I do not take offense if someone...
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    Asperger's and Irritable Bowel Syndrome

    When my son was born he had a very loose stool, acid reflux and other digestive issues that persisted into his late 2's. After much frustration with his pediatrician, my chiropractor offered to take a look at him. She explained that misalignments often occur during the birthing process so it's...
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    BULLIED BY TEENAGE GIRL AT WORK

    I'm so sorry you have to put up with this toxic human being. I was a lot like you when I was younger, I was terrified by people like this and I think it was my Aspergers and my naiveté, I just couldn't understand why anyone would intentionally create animosity and conflict for no good reason...
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    Hope you can help-NT female/AS male

    Weddings, christenings, family dinners with yours or even his own family, and even quiet dinners with friends unfortunately are not high on the list of enjoyable activities for an aspie. In fact, if he has social anxiety, they can be draining and down right painful. This doesn't mean that he...
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    Good social things for aspies?

    I think any group activity you enjoy would be good, especially if it involves exercise and/or volunteering your services. Even more importantly, you should really like the people because then you'd want to show up even if the activity was scooping poop.
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    Lightning fast!

    I get your frustration and disappointment because it sounds like the perfect evening out, but I don't see how you screwed up or how it relates to your life. Maybe it reminds you of other events that you missed and that really bothers you? Or maybe the emotional let down is too overwhelming? I...
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    How to figure out your IQ if your an Aspie

    You have some clear passions and big ideas of what you'd like to do and that says more about your potential than any IQ score ever could. No employer in their right mind would take an IQ score as a qualification or even a factor for a job, because as others have mentioned, there is so much more...
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    Special Problem: Autism for my daughter

    I think raising children is a challenge in any family and raising autistic children has its own unique set of challenges. Education is the key here and getting on the same page as your wife. You will not find a solution to your problems through a divorce, rather you will loose control during...
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    Special Problem: Autism for my daughter

    I'm wondering if your spouse is getting good information from back home and why they think therapy is bad. I've seen speech, physical, occupational therapy in action and I think its great, it did wonders for my child and the therapists were always positive and upbeat. I've also seen some ABA...
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    Standing up for what I need...or what I want?

    I saw a family at disneyland make a similar request for their autistic child and I believe they were accommodated (they did not have to line up). Maybe call the busline ahead of time to see if they anticipate any extra seats and than ask if you can be accommodated. I think we should speak up...
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    24 yr son at home

    Please forgive me. I know aspies have difficulty with social cues, etc, but I'm not sure if this is normal not thinking of the others, in the house." My nephew has aspergers and he's said the most awful things to his mother. Sometimes I think mother's take the brunt of the abuse and with some...
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    24 yr son at home

    Sounds like the real issue is his being 24 years old and at home. You're probably concerned about his job prospects, school or future??? His masturbation probably disgusts you, as it would for any parent catching their child doing this, but it's not the real issue perhaps? Maybe you're...
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    So Confrontation didn't go as well as planned

    Yes it's a misunderstanding. What I was trying to say was that accommodating Jim's aspergers in unrealistic ways might actually make him feel like he is disabled, inadequate or heavily affected by his syndrome. Hopefully that makes more sense? I applaud Jane for searching out answers about...
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    So Confrontation didn't go as well as planned

    You sound pretty anxious and bothered by his behavior so I think he is pulling away from that. And seeing one another every 2 weeks is ridiculous and he knows it and deep inside you know it too. It’s not sustainable for a human relationship. You’ve known one another for a year and early on...
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    Why am I so forgetful.

    I think aspies tend to hyper focus and can forget the world exists along with all of its mundane chores. I had to shift my hyper focus from my interests into getting organized and spent a lot of time working out to-do list strategies, setting goals and deadlines. Deadlines for everything on...
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