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Recent content by Cogitatio

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    NT friends and the spectrum

    I found that just being yourself was enough as the few friends I had found me. Not the other way around.
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    Reading obsession

    That's exactly how I see it.
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    Reading obsession

    My reading is research in that way. I only read text books to work out how the world works in all subjects. So I suppose its the same.
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    "Just make friends!" Most unhelpful advice ever?

    I did not mean to associate the two (IQ and silence). That was just bad writing.
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    Reading obsession

    I love to read and that tends to isolate me. So when I am with my partner I get agitated that I don't have time to read. So to solve this I created a room into a library of all my books (all reference books) and sometimes its enough just to go into my library and look at the books I have yet...
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    How do me and my very attached boyfriend make it work?

    Routine Routine Routine. I agree with the earlier posts. You have to have time for yourself or your relationship will tank. Set out a routine so that he knows when he will see you and when he wont. If he can't accept this it will be very hard on you.
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    How to meet another Aspie

    My psychologist introduced me to one of her patients who agreed to meet me. Was not sure why other than curiosity. We met outside a bar with my psychologist with us. Small talk was all but impossible. What I did learn (as someone newly diagnosed) was how similar his views were about people...
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    "Nice lady therapists"

    I am lucky enough to have dodged this bullet and have a great psychologist (she). But useful to hear about this 'category' of bad therapists. There are a lot of them out there.
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    Eye-contact

    I avoid eye contact but in doing so often avoid face contact. This leads to me missing many visual clue in the way a face (and eyes) express emotion. Facial expressions go a long way to helping us understand context and how something is said. It makes every conversation into the equivalent of...
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    "Just make friends!" Most unhelpful advice ever?

    My therapist says there is research out there (I can't quote it) that says communication between two individuals with a greater than 30 IQ gap is very difficult. My list of friends is 2 long and both of them are high IQ. The key to both of them is that they are content to just be together...
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    Comment by 'Cogitatio' in 'Staying on your feet in social situations'

    Great set of rules. I like the idea of just removing oneself from situations. I have found myself in that situation (staying at meetings) where I completely misread things. The end result is I always realise what I have done when its too late and suffer crippling humiliation and guilt for my...
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    Comment by 'Cogitatio' in 'A touch of psychosis and another diagnosis.'

    The tiredness is the killer for me. Loss of sleep and continual fatigue is largely down to the similar pills I take to you. I struggle every day to keep normal and the tablets help with that but the crippling fatigue makes it hard to work. Its a double edged sword, stop taking the tablets to...
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    Boyfriend with Aspergers just broke up with me...

    It has crossed my mind, as an Aspie, whether I should split up with my girlfriend. I lover her very much and she loves me. But I am not sure she likes me any more and I find it hard to be in a relationship with someone who does not like me (she is NT and I was diagnosed earlier this year)...
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    How do you breathe?

    I have breathing problems when I get anxious. This is not necessarily when I am talking but just about whenever I am anxious or thinking about something that makes me anxious. Basically I stop breathing until I am completely out of breath and then gasp. Sometimes its so bad I cannot talk...
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    Why are people okay with this?

    Surely you cant be worried about not existing before you were born. There was no entity capable of regret as you had not been born. Regret and fear must be emotions only living entities are capable of. Its not the gaining of extra life (before birth) that makes sense to me, its the loss of...
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