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Recent content by Carpe_Librum

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    Empathy and YOUR feelings as an AS person

    Feeling embarrassed for someone else is a very strong one for me also. Although my own experience of personally becoming embarrassed is a bit haphazard, I can often do things that would make another person feel completely ridiculous, and I can laugh it off. Other times a tiny thing is enough to...
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    Empathy and YOUR feelings as an AS person

    This, absolutely. People think I am great at coping - it isn't that. I'm not. So need more safety nets and methods of detachment because quite frankly it's all terrifying. This thread has really given me so much to think about.
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    Empathy and YOUR feelings as an AS person

    I feel a great deal of it - and as a result people pour a lot of their emotions into me. I have the urge to fix, to apply logic to the emotional flood because it feels so huge and affects me to the degree it does. At this point I have found that people can turn against and lose rationality. I...
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    How do you forget stuff?

    Not my strong suit. My Aspie friend told me that autistic people's way of storing memories is different to other people's and most things whether relevant or not can go straight into long term memory. Certainly makes sense. Accepting as others have said is the best way, what you are doing here...
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    Are there textures you can't bear to touch?

    I also can't bear getting biro or felt tip on my fingers and won't use permanent markers.
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    Are there textures you can't bear to touch?

    Silk or silk mix. Absolutely horrible feeling!
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    grandson - advice needed

    My son's diagnosis began during nursery - the staff came to me and said he wouldn't join in with other children, became distressed if he wasn't in charge of play, didn't want to do messy play etc etc and then by the time he was 7 I was getting daily phonecalls from school - about his behaviour...
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    Being alone does not seem so bad

    I just recalled the time I caused a huge amount of fuss because I was essentially forced to play with my mum's friend's daughter. Rather than alone. I had one of those old fashioned wardrobes with a key - I told her to get in "for a game" then shut it, locked her in and went elsewhere to play...
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    Being alone does not seem so bad

    My preference for alone time began as a child. My mum only ever threw me one birthday party when I was eight. I remember looking at the children gathered in my house, and getting just about past present opening before I took one present upstairs, a Mr Men jigsaw and after awhile I allowed one...
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    The motor dysfunction of Aspergers

    I love to dance - and during that I am pretty graceful and coordinated. Which is in complete opposition to when I am moving around the house. I constantly bump my hip into things, always have cuts and scrapes on my fingers, bruises on my legs. I always constantly hit my head on cupboards. Other...
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    Questions asking for advice...

    "cold" "clinical" "analytical" "empty" "numb" All things that have been said to me - in order to, I don't know exactly because my analysing is simply ordering and making sense. It doesn't seem to have anything to do with emotion, of which I have plenty. Empty! I am so intensely full some days...
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    Questions asking for advice...

    When people start to tell me something and say "I'll just give you the short version" or skip details I find myself asking questions and saying no, long version please - wanting to as others have said build an entire picture because if I am going to be required to give an opinion or advice I...
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    Hi... currently trying not to throw up with anxiety.

    No. I have tended to tell myself I am many things over the years - and found numerous excuses for my melt downs or my bad days/moments. I feel that I did know all along why my real me is the way it is. I do like who I am - but I don't necessarily accept it. I hope that by seeking answers and...
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    What are some things that bring you joy?

    Reading is one - it makes me sad when I am too overwhelmed by life stuff to do it. I will read ferociously for weeks and then something overloads me and I stop. I have learned this is only ever temporary though. I love any sort of bleak comedy, I have a dark humour so can appreciate that in my...
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    Noisy or quiet?

    I use heavy rainfall sound as my alarm. Trouble is while it means I could technically wake up without the anxiety caused by usual nonsense alarm sounds - I also, well, I stay asleep as it happily blares out of my phone. "Sorry I am late I slept through a monsoon because it soothes me" isn't...
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