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Meaning, Over Here; Interpretation, Over There

Why is it that I have so many instances of miscommunication online? Is it just me, or is it common? I've become rather demoralized over it. I've begun to think that online spaces are too impersonal. Maybe they are only too impersonal for certain types of communication, but I'm afraid that type, whatever it is, is my main mode of communication. It's a pity because I'm at my communicative best with text.

I don't like dating and have never been fortunate in it; but I think it's definitely time to give up the dream of being alone forever, only interacting online. It's quite difficult to forge an interpersonal space for myself IRL, but e-space apparently cannot replace it, so I must try.

I hope that, if ever I get myself into a relationship, I won't have to do this "no, that's not what I meant," shuffle again and again and again. It would be a dream come true. But I don't say half the things I post online because verbal expression is tiring and difficult. Perhaps I could compromise by sharing my journal with that special someone, and saving the verbal expression for more personal, relationship-oriented things. Yes, that would be best; the mere thought of trying to verbalize the sorts lengthy posts in my journal is dismaying and fatiguing.

I also hope to be able to express opinions without being seen as trying to emotionally injure the other party. That would truly be an intellectual paradise.

But what a Herculean task it will be to find someone who has a taste for the eccentric bentHnau!

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I feel your pain.

Online spaces can be very personal if one makes an effort to express oneself and the other party goes along with it. But I often find that a lot of people are impersonal and sound like assholes in their emails. In real life though, they are cheery and pleasant. There are people who are impersonal in any space. I would rather not open my mouth once but write things in buckets - smoothly and creatively. I just don't have time to come up with things as I speak because there are so many circulating through my head - I start gasping for words.

The other party must be willing to understand and most importantly, to learn to understand. It takes time, effort, getting over unpleasant confusions. That's something that came to me through many a sad experience.
 

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