Loss of a friend

What happened? Sounds like she maybe was having unreasonable issues with your personality, but it's hard to tell from what you wrote. Would love to hear more if you'd care to divulge.

ifightdragons;bt2203 said:

What happened? Sounds like she maybe was having unreasonable issues with your personality, but it's hard to tell from what you wrote. Would love to hear more if you'd care to divulge.

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Well it's a bit complicated for two reasons: I generally don't like talking and I don't want to reveal any things about her, but the gists of it is that she is a bit... different and that talking to people really isn't her thing. She had told me this, but evidently it didn't take and I continued to bug her to the point in which she de-friended me on Facebook.

I feel you, it's never easy when someone you care about seems to drift away, especially when we're left with no clear answers as to why and how it really happened. But you definitely shouldn't blame yourself for talking to her. She was/is your friend, so you talked to her like a good friend ought to.

Also, what happens on Facebook truly stays on Facebook! If adding friends and de-friending was as easy and carefree in real life, this world would be an even more angst-ridden and chaotic place than it already it is.

Usually this kind of thing is not irreversible, and it is possible to reconcile. Even if it doesn't seem like it at the time. I mean, it's not like you did something actually harmful to her. Of course, if you decide there will be no reconciliation, then there won't be. :unsure:
Way too many negatives in my comment...

Ste11aeres;bt2207 said:

Usually this kind of thing is not irreversible, and it is possible to reconcile. Even if it doesn't seem like it at the time. I mean, it's not like you did something actually harmful to her. Of course, if you decide there will be no reconciliation, then there won't be. :unsure:
Way too many negatives in my comment...

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Well the best thing that I can do now is to simply let her be and hope for the best. Maybe we will get back together in the future, maybe we won't but I don't let it bother me none.

Maybe that means there was nothing there in the first place?

It's hard to lose a friend, especially when you don't have many to begin with. It's hard to let go. Strictly speaking for myself I find that I tend to stay in friendships or accept friendships that clearly are not mutually beneficial, there is very little in common or no longer anything in common. Befriending someone simply because they are the only one who will have anything to do with you at the time may work for a while but at what cost?

Spinning Compass;bt2213 said:

It's hard to lose a friend, especially when you don't have many to begin with. It's hard to let go. Strictly speaking for myself I find that I tend to stay in friendships or accept friendships that clearly are not mutually beneficial, there is very little in common or no longer anything in common. Befriending someone simply because they are the only one who will have anything to do with you at the time may work for a while but at what cost?

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Well, I sent her a picture yesterday, and while she hasn't responded with any words, she did see it and she hasn't set her Facebook account to block me; in my eyes that might be progress, though I can't really say what kind.

And I've also given some thought about what our relationship entailed; I contacted her because she mentioned something that I'm interested in and most of our interactions have revolved around it, so I'm thinking of seeing if she would simply be willing to just talk about that and nothing more. If the relationship changes, it changes. If not, then no skin off my nose.