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What situations do you freeze in?

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Calvert

'Bout Ye?
Are there certain social situations that you just freeze in?

I can talk fine to one or two friends but anymore than that and it's like the social side of my brain just switches off completely. I can communicate fine on forums but I don't sign into MSN much because I end up not talking much or knowing what to say. I can talk on the phone if I need to ask or arrange something specific but outside of that the conversation would be non-existent. When i'm talking into my webcam to make a YouTube video I just freeze up inside and seem very nervous and awkward. I hate having to make a speech in front of people but once I get started I gradually begin to feel fine.

So are there certain situations were you don't seem yourself or that you freeze up in?
 
Well, I don`t freeze up so often. I talk with people well. Especially with adults. I`m a little bit more nervous when someone who is about as old as me and I don`t know comes and talks to me. Not so much as I used to tho. But, when a beautiful girl, who I don`t know, comes to talk to me I usually get a little bit nervous, but I wont show it. I keep my cool.

But luckily, I have become more braver and I`m talking well with other people in these days whatever it was an adult or a youngster a guy or a girl.
 
My social switch flips any time I'm around more than one person. I can do two or three if I know all two or three well but I don't do as well with new people.

I do fine with public speaking or with working in a group professionally, but when it's a social thing I just get confused and don't know what to do. I am also like that if I don't know how to do something and don't have the steps. Like I had to go make a bank deposit a few months ago and I needed my mom to tell me exactly what I needed to do when I got there and she got mad and said it was self explanatory and it really wasn't. I needed to know the steps. Since I didn't I got there and didn't know what to do and flubbed through the whole thing and the teller laughed at me.
 
Ruby said:
I do fine with public speaking or with working in a group professionally, but when it's a social thing I just get confused and don't know what to do. I am also like that if I don't know how to do something and don't have the steps. Like I had to go make a bank deposit a few months ago and I needed my mom to tell me exactly what I needed to do when I got there and she got mad and said it was self explanatory and it really wasn't. I needed to know the steps. Since I didn't I got there and didn't know what to do and flubbed through the whole thing and the teller laughed at me.
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Ouh, I forgot to tell that as well. I also used to have a little bit problems with talking to for example; store clerks. Especially if the clerk was a nice looking girl. The words just refused to come out of my mouth. But I`m braver and more social now. For example; I started to say "Merry Christmas!" to store clerks and even to Turkish pizza restaurant keepers every time I left during December. I`m proud of that.
 
Ok right i text alot on my phone and dont like phoning up people or i prefer to email them mainly professionals on yahoo account, but i become very mute in groups its so bad i start seeing flies as i am so anxious and also crowds are my biggest problem i panick amd i jjust cant talk if asked how feel my cards are ready.
 
I've been to a few group meets with people online. I've sort of frozen up at all of them and either sat and listened to people or wandered to different groups and listened. They are really nice people who I've chatted with online for a few years so I'm not that uncomfortable with them. I guess if it's a noisy location then I don't know wether I'm speaking loud enough and my voice sounds different to me.

Also sometimes it can take me a while to do my videos because I get frustrated if I don't say things right and then I shout and sort of tantrum then I start it again and eventually I'm pleased with them so what usually looks like an easily made video is sometimes a frustrating experience.
 
I find that when i'm in a noisy place, my voice just goes flat. It's like I can't raise it because of the noise. However, if i'm at home I can raise my voice just fine when i'm angry.  :rofl:
 
I simply freeze, if I get the answering machine, I hate answering machines! Also in timed tests, where I freeze and just stare at the clock tick and tock away. Also I'm scared of dogs, so I freeze if I see a loose dog coming close. Also if I am being filmed, the sight of a film camera makes me freeze, and If I am supposed to speak in front of people about something I do not know very well or do not have confidence in,or if I am asked to tell something about myself. I freeze in lots of situations.
 
I freeze in groups of people, presentations or even with meetings on my work, i also have this with the phone. I don't have problems talking to people from any sex or age, but i know that when i talk to people they are getting sleepy of my voice... As with girls/women they notice that there's no spark as i am not really intrested in any kind of relationship
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Sometimes I'll find something someone's said so ludicrous that I'll just freeze or burst out laughing. This happens mainly when I'm talking to religious people or an idiot I got into an argument with over something trivial. I don't argue with idiots over trivial things anymore so the latter doesn't happen so frequently though.
But I've never been so anxious that I just freeze unless it's someone I perceive as authoritative who's mad at me. Then I might freeze, or do the complete opposite and ramble on for as long in an attempt to stop them from shouting anymore or w.e. I've been doing the latter less though since it once resulted in me rambling on for 10 minutes about how the teacher exhibited narcissistic traits and the causes of narcissism, and his child hood, etc. and he seemed to get really pissed off at that and hated me.
I can be more socially awkward in specific situations over others but other than the former situations I don't think I can recall a time where I've just stopped functioning completely. In some situations I seem almost NT except a few traits which are always evident tbh, and then in others I seem very low functioning where I struggle to look the person in the eye, etc.
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