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Very Late Diagnosis of Asperger Syndrome: How Seeking a Diagnosis in Adulthood Can Change Your Life 2014-10-15

How Seeking a Diagnosis in Adulthood Can Change Your Life

  1. Brent

    Brent Administrator Staff Member Admin

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    Brent submitted a new resource:

    Very Late Diagnosis of Asperger Syndrome: How Seeking a Diagnosis in Adulthood Can Change Your Life - How Seeking a Diagnosis in Adulthood Can Change Your Life

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  2. Adamantium

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    Hi Brent!

    Did you read this book? What did you think?

    I was diagnosed at 47, so the topic is immediately interesting to me.
     
  3. Hester

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    Must admit I didn't like this book at all. Its full of "woo" and is very impractical in it's advice, suggesting things like "try moving to another country and changing your name" and "become a shaman, a DJ or a royalty based author" which are just daft for most people.

    It makes huge generalisations. It says thinks like "All Aspies have great concentrations skills" which isn't actually true. At one point suggests that female aspies actually have an easy time of it because society is set up to benefit them!!!!!!!!

    It relies heavily on quotes from other authors and contains a three page commercial plug for his own private therapist.

    I can see why this guy wrote it and I sympathise - it was great therapy for him but I don't think his therapist should have suggested he publish!
     
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  4. Judge

    Judge Well-Known Member

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    So far I don't see self-awareness as "changing" my life so much as coming to an understanding of it. But I still consider this a form of progress.
     
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  5. Loomis

    Loomis Well-Known Member

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    My diagnosis definitely changed my life. I used to think I was good at understanding people and interpreting social cues. My diagnosis made clear I had deluded myself and vastly overrated my interpersonal skills. It allowed me to make sense of my social problems and understand my past social blunders. Now I know my social skills are below average and this knowledge has given me humility. I can admire and watch people with excellent social skills and accept their superior ability without feeling diminished.

    My approach to life is to strive for absolute honesty in all my relationships. I want my actions and words to reflect what I think and believe without a hint of deceit. Moreover I work hard to accept everyone exactly as they are without critical judgement. I trust people even if I know nothing about them. I have stopped worrying about what might happen and accept whatever fate dishes out.
     
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  6. AspiePie

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    So could my dad become a better person if he sought diagnose?
     
  7. King_Oni

    King_Oni Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    I suppose, as with all resources... "read the book and find out" ;)

    All kidding aside; what exactly makes one needing to be "better" person? Can someone become a better person if he or she works on problematic areas? Most likely. But as with all things of change, the person has to want to change it themselves. When talking autism spectrum, a diagnosis is merely a tool for some to gauge they're "a bit different" something that doesn't neccesarily have to be wrong or a problem.

    For me personally, a diagnosis as an indication for change it much like new years resolutions; why does one need an event to start a timeline of change? If you're a terrible person, or you're dealing with a person you consider needing to become "better" (whatever that might mean) there's nothing wrong in working on it right now; no diagnosis needed. Quite sure plenty of people not on the spectrum could work on certain qualities as well.

    The other side however is this, and especially when it comes to mental health; wanting to change sometimes requires coaching and support in varying degrees. From all the people I've dealt with who are on the spectrum, none receive the proper support to make changes and maintain them. And as with plenty of people, some really need a bit more support that's on top of it all; we're not all people that can change things solely by ourselves, regardless if there's a different neurology.
     
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