Neon Night-Rider
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I (who is currently questioning if he's neurodivergent) have an autistic co-worker that I've developed intense feelings for. Although she's worked here for at least a couple of years now, we never talk to each other, even though I know we have a lot of common interests. Because of my social anxiety, I've only mustered up the courage to greet her a few times. Sometimes, she greets me back and other times, she doesn't respond at all. When the latter happens, it just discourages me from talking to her. It's only after doing more research on autism yesterday that I read that autistic people will sometimes just not react to people talking to them, and it shouldn't be taken personally (I don't know if that's true, I'm just going by what I read.) The other thing is that sometimes I catch her staring at me, unless if I'm seeing things and it's just wishful thinking on my part. So I really don't know if she likes me or not.
Tbh, since I hate small talk so much (and I'm sure she hates it too), I've even considered just skipping the small talk and just asking her out. The main reasons why I don't want to do this is firstly, I don't even know if she's single or not. I technically don't even know for a fact if she's interested in men. And besides that, I don't know if she'll react badly and report me to HR or something.
I guess I just want advice from the perspective of those on the spectrum. Is she showing signs of interest or not? Should I just keep trying to talk to her?
Tbh, since I hate small talk so much (and I'm sure she hates it too), I've even considered just skipping the small talk and just asking her out. The main reasons why I don't want to do this is firstly, I don't even know if she's single or not. I technically don't even know for a fact if she's interested in men. And besides that, I don't know if she'll react badly and report me to HR or something.
I guess I just want advice from the perspective of those on the spectrum. Is she showing signs of interest or not? Should I just keep trying to talk to her?