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Trying to be nicer to people?

Tony Ramirez

Tony Ramirez

Everyone Hates Me
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Just now I went into a bad attitude thinking they are giving me a hard time going to volunteer when I'm walking in, and I was polite then they worked with me to make arrangements. I can't do Saturday orientation.

Earlier being nice to two women who went through issues again were locked in going somewhere I wanted to enter, said don't let it bother me.

I don't like judging people before knowing them. I got that from my family. My friends are trying to make me better, but I live with my parents.
 
Thinking positively and seeing the good in others will definitely make it easier to be nicer to people. I remember reading that you found out many of your negative perceptions of others turned out to be incorrect. If you keep reminding yourself of this when you think someone is giving you a hard time or a "resting face" you can get into the habit of thinking and reacting positively, which will likely lead to more positive reactions from others.
 
Agree. I judged a bunch of women wrong today. Even brief, interacted with some. I really hate my RSD. My parents care for me, but they are so negative towards me and others very judgmental.
 
A lot of folks become better people specifically because they refuse to become their parents. It can inspire you and remind you, if you make it a habitual mindset. Write it down on a piece of paper in your pocket - a list of what they'd do, and therefore you won't - keep it with you as needed.
 
I think his therapist is making progress. And his support circle is stepping in too. Great work Tony, you are figuring out things. Your parents pass judgment on you but it doesn't mean you have to be what they brainwashed you into believing about yourself. Maybe they were frightened you would get hurt, maybe they transferred their fears to you, and then sadly you internalized their messages, when that doesn't have to be you. l went thru that with my dad and brother.
 
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