Too private

[Kayla55]

Just wishing to get feedback from others, in my life I always struggled with being closed up to meeting new people. Seemed my life became hidden at first even struggling to say what choice career I'd chosen, wishing to not answer questions about what job I had, which is seemingly normal question and people do ask few. How much I earn is rude, but with requests like bank statements in life, it became 'i earn usual amount for someone in IT field'' another strange one was who do you know in common and due to avoiding some people,

Certain aspects still bother me such as having a lease because if anything is broken such as load shedding defrosted fridge and chipboard on cupboard is ruined, then owner gets uptight and starts wanting to check house, normal, but I don't really want to be bothered and want to be left alone so it really sets me off. I know it's just bank statement, but still just feel at times as if it's no one's business about my life.

Does autism impact you like this, too?

 

[Captain Caveman]

I understand taking the peaceful less stressful approach. Sometimes it feels like one just wants to live in the middle of a field for a simple life!

 

[SusanLR]

I never liked being asked personal questions. Especially when they want an explanation as to why I do or don't want this or that in my life.
Sometimes a simple yes or no answer is all they get.

And it always makes me uptight when I have to make contact with people coming into my home. Visitors, people to do some sort of fix it work and even the few people I've associated with as a friend.
I like neutral ground for contact. When the day is over, I want the privacy of going home. People who come to the door unannounced, unexpected isn't my style.
Give me an ETA and reason first.

Even making phone calls is stressful. I let it go to voicemail unless I know who it is.
That keeps down the junk calls also.

 

[Kayla55]

I really hate socials where we must eat pizza with knife and fork, gosh pizza tastes better when eaten with hands. I often eat alone as I used to eat chicken with my hands, sink my teeth in much to gasp and horror of others.

Yip, best to eat alone

 

[Kayla55]

A number of times of wondered what was due to neglect and what was autism, seems so many autistic traits are embedded in similar structures. As high functioning people did you notice lack of parent guidance, your own independence. Despite title are these issues you struggle with on routine day to day with people

 

[Ken]

Just wishing to get feedback from others, in my life I always struggled with being closed up to meeting new people. Seemed my life became hidden at first even struggling to say what choice career I'd chosen, wishing to not answer questions about what job I had, which is seemingly normal question and people do ask few. How much I earn is rude, but with requests like bank statements in life, it became 'i earn usual amount for someone in IT field'' another strange one was who do you know in common and due to avoiding some people,

Certain aspects still bother me such as having a lease because if anything is broken such as load shedding defrosted fridge and chipboard on cupboard is ruined, then owner gets uptight and starts wanting to check house, normal, but I don't really want to be bothered and want to be left alone so it really sets me off. I know it's just bank statement, but still just feel at times as if it's no one's business about my life.

Does autism impact you like this, too?

I suspect our experiences are not exactly the same, however I feel that they may be similar. I believe that my issue along this line is due to a sensitivity. Not sure if it's autism, but it I believe it is. The sensitivity I'm referring to is that I can't stand the thought of someone, anyone, having any degree of control of my life, space, property, etc. I can't even stand having a doctor do something to me without me specifically asking for it. Anything prescribed must have been requested by me or I won't take it. I feel that any medical efforts on me without my specific request puts me in the same category as a piece of livestock. I actually have a major PTSD regarding livestock. Perhaps there is a connection there. That's explained in this thread. Have to scroll down to my post.

I am also extremely nervous for anyone to work on anything I own. I don't want a mechanic to work on my car or anything like that. I have to do it myself.

My mother always pointed out that when I was a toddler I would scream and flail about trying to escape if anyone tried to pick me up to put me in the car or anything like that. I had to do it myself, regardless how hard it was.

But I'm with you that my life is no one's business.

 

[Masked Man]

I don't think I have that problem, mostly I understand that people ask these questions to try to find something in common with me/something they can connect with. Although yeah, sometimes they can get a bit intrusive - like how much I make is no one's business.

I think the questions that bother me are the ones that get a bit too personal. I had a coworker who asked if I had kids, I said no, I didn't. She then asked if I wanted them, and I said I didn't think so, pretty sure no. She then asked why. About that point I started to feel like - why does it matter to you? Just take the answer and move on, find something else to connect with me about.

 

[Ronald Zeeman]

Only a few people talked to me, when working worked alone in lab middle side of long thin plant so not a lot of visitors other than suppliers, for us it was mainly business.