IntoTheVoid
Well-Known Member
I am already 30 and my friends and family sometimes try to remind me that I am already 30 so maybe I should be.... you know... adult.
They talk about all the responsibilities that adult life brings and I kinda hate it.
It's not like I am some sort of big child but I kinda hate certain "adult things"
Examples:
1) "Maybe you should finally get a driver license and buy a car."
2) "You should take a loan and finally buy your own house and have a family. And maybe you should have two and rent the other one to someone."
3) "When do you plan to have your own children."
And many more things.
I hate when people talk about it.
I don't have a car, because I don't think I need it. I always take a bus and everything I need is sorta accessible with public transport. I also don't want to study traffic regulations and all the law things around. I don't want to study about loans - how they work, what should I be careful about, what every single number means and so on. I don't want to study real estates. Not only I don't want it, but I feel like you need some sort of... abilities to be good at these things? Does it make sense? Like being good at dealing with people and the language of law and so on.
I am always really upset when people around start convincing me to have a drive license or take a loan. They always seem to perceive me as a big child that needs to be adult finally. But I don't know... And of couse, I think that maybe I don't get these things because I have an autism, so that's why these adult thingies creep me out?
Anyway how do you deal with the "adult life" ? Is it easy for you to deal with things like drive licenses, loans, renting houses and all these things, or do you find it difficult and totally distant from you as I do? Am I actually a big child, when I don't want to do certain things in my life? Are these things eventually unavoidable as people keep telling me?
They talk about all the responsibilities that adult life brings and I kinda hate it.
It's not like I am some sort of big child but I kinda hate certain "adult things"
Examples:
1) "Maybe you should finally get a driver license and buy a car."
2) "You should take a loan and finally buy your own house and have a family. And maybe you should have two and rent the other one to someone."
3) "When do you plan to have your own children."
And many more things.
I hate when people talk about it.
I don't have a car, because I don't think I need it. I always take a bus and everything I need is sorta accessible with public transport. I also don't want to study traffic regulations and all the law things around. I don't want to study about loans - how they work, what should I be careful about, what every single number means and so on. I don't want to study real estates. Not only I don't want it, but I feel like you need some sort of... abilities to be good at these things? Does it make sense? Like being good at dealing with people and the language of law and so on.
I am always really upset when people around start convincing me to have a drive license or take a loan. They always seem to perceive me as a big child that needs to be adult finally. But I don't know... And of couse, I think that maybe I don't get these things because I have an autism, so that's why these adult thingies creep me out?
Anyway how do you deal with the "adult life" ? Is it easy for you to deal with things like drive licenses, loans, renting houses and all these things, or do you find it difficult and totally distant from you as I do? Am I actually a big child, when I don't want to do certain things in my life? Are these things eventually unavoidable as people keep telling me?