Thoughts for Emotional Support

[Mr. Stevens]

I wasn't sure where to post this, but here seems appropriate.

This is a thread for resources and thoughts of emotional support. Many people on this sight suffer and seek help and understanding for this. I found the link below on a blog for the Berkeley Buddhist Priory, concerning feelings and emotions. Perhaps this is helpful, as posters here, myself included, tend to struggle in these areas. It's not short, but it is easy to read.

Feelings and Emotions by Rev. Kinrei Bassis

 

[Kayla55]

I also sought answers through various religions before finding myself.
From my experience it isn't that initially they don't want to train outsiders but gain sense of trust in person who is taught will use means to do good.

Being outcast enabled me to understand this unlike many people,
Xijiping said we don't tell west how to live, but they often come to us seeking answers. This is so true

But again the history of our struggle when none of us had jobs/money, well it's typical Hollywood disrespect to change who character really was, and insulting that all my good deeds are lost to few moments with a blond. But I've for years known the world to warp views, even with success.... I'm left warping. It's not that I go out with intentions to hurt blond people, I've always prided myself in having values and not hitting below the belt.
I was down n out, I gave my last insight and disrespect is hurtful.
The one movie displays westerner winning fight, in their art form. And choice less we must surrender to the bully, even us aspies expected after all years to share our eventual success with open hearts. I loose my mind trying to understand various levels the world breaks our spirit with. And it's called successful in the end, ye, in their minds.

 

[Mr. Stevens]

Thank you for your response, Kayla Life is hard--it can be brutal at times. What makes you feel the world is livable, and that you can be comfortable in yourself?

 

[AprilR]

This was a good read. Especially the part about treating feelings as temporary resonated with me. I tend to cling on to my feelings, esp. Negative ones. I feel like there is a deeper meaning to pain sometimes, when there is simply not. So i disagree with this part.

When i am in too much pain i try to remind myself that it will pass with time, everything is temporary in life. There were times that i perceived something eternal and beautiful in life, and i recognized it was too beautiful to belong to this world. So i also try to remind myself of this beauty and feeling of eternity that i temporarily experienced in life, and it makes everything worth it.

 

[Aspychata]

Thanks for posting that link. Right now l am dealing with overload of triggers. I do spiral.

 

[Au Naturel]

People disregard the importance of philosophy in keeping one's head above water and maintaining stability. The best minds the world has to offer have worked on the same problems we experience today and fought their way through to useful ideas. Maybe we can learn a little something by picking their brains. But many reject without having a clue what they are rejecting.

I think some of that comes from having a culturally distorted idea of what various philosophies promote. Nine out of ten would give you a completely farcical notion of what, say, Epicureanism, Stoicism or Buddhism actually teaches, and wouldn't even know what you were talking about if you mentioned existentialism. And some of it comes from not wanting to put in the work (months to years). And some of it comes from unwillingness to accept what they may find on the other side.

"It is important to recognize that we do not control what feelings will arise in us. We can only control our reaction to our feelings."

 

[Kayla55]

This was a good read. Especially the part about treating feelings as temporary resonated with me. I tend to cling on to my feelings, esp. Negative ones. I feel like there is a deeper meaning to pain sometimes, when there is simply not. So i disagree with this part.

Agrer

 

[Kayla55]

Thank you for your response, Kayla Life is hard--it can be brutal at times. What makes you feel the world is livable, and that you can be comfortable in yourself?

I'm not sure anymore, if life had being easy then I wouldn't be who I am today, or have done half things that I'm not even accredited with.
About turning to dark side in star wars, but not joing vadar due to differences. My dad sent link for work, I know we need money but really it's an insult, in past I took jobs I needed, but now I'm angry.
In way we discussing policy and philosophy for new way forward, and it's exciting to think of future freedoms, but disagreements merge all time regarding habits and whilst we not strict on specifying that some can't have money, I'm not happy that some people infringe on others work - so let's argue product W is needed by people, W is still creation of someone and should duly be respected. Then issues dangers of war/pay so being liberal (and despite being blond many times they can be more open, such free range farms, willingness to change for better) so JD Vance is upset she willing to listen, but for mergence with BRICS

Need to discuss and resolve issues, but lot of pain and losses, she stands accused of selling out to Germans and money. I said we understand money can provide level of protection to vulnerable women however greed has to stop.

 

[Kayla55]

Cut deals with not good characters, well the future is what we saw happen in past. A willingness to come to table and discuss and resolve long standing disputes means abundant life/prosperity not gold and riches. Pending ceasefire between Finland n Russia, however we want AI investment in phillipinos but not Germany/Microsoft (no trust no faith) don't do that, I have idea as new political theory but even without solid plan we will always make a way, God is faithful. But I won't be blackmailed.

I haven't joined BRICS, landed on truce with USA but we know George Soros is ....
Manipulus and in the end USA is disrespectful in so many ways,

 

[Kayla55]

I've deleted everything to do with USA and refuse to talk again, they can lie manipulate Germany as much as desperate attempt to hold power (for some power means leprechaun never has principles of honour)
We are done!!!!
Can I through my experience join BRICS and come through with better results than Greta and Elon musk? Unsure
Our lives stand to be ruint anyway, just on basis that NT way isn't fulfillment and safe passage as noted yields death in slow way, anyway.

 

[Mr. Stevens]

We should be careful not to make this thread political. But, your feelings are understandable, Kayla. One of the hardest things is living in the moment, especially when so many things--politics, commerce, education, etc.--are about a fantasized past and future. This can be exciting, but also make us sad, anxious, depressed, or feel unlovable.

Marcus Aurelius says: "You will find rest from vain fancies if you perform every act in life as though it were your last."

If we change every moment, living and dying throughout the day, then each act--every piece of each act--is our last. That can be very liberating. We can worry about wicked people, but think of how grasping and desperate they are. This makes them appear less scary, so we see they are very lost. They can do damage, but we see the world is full of many angry children, and they look silly, too.

Another way to see this is when Aurelius says, "Remember that all is opinion." At the end of his novel The Trial, Franz Kafka writes, "What is written is unchanging and opinions are often just an expression of desire at that." What is "written"--logos--for us is the fundamentals of the universe. And many do not know what they are reading (i.e. how to live), but have strong opinions, anyway. Keeping that in mind lets us breathe fully and feel soothed. If we get lost in the ideology of others, we are trapped in mere opinion, and we don't need to be.

 

[Mr. Stevens]

People disregard the importance of philosophy in keeping one's head above water and maintaining stability. The best minds the world has to offer have worked on the same problems we experience today and fought their way through to useful ideas. Maybe we can learn a little something by picking their brains. But many reject without having a clue what they are rejecting.

I think some of that comes from having a culturally distorted idea of what various philosophies promote. Nine out of ten would give you a completely farcical notion of what, say, Epicureanism, Stoicism or Buddhism actually teaches, and wouldn't even know what you were talking about if you mentioned existentialism. And some of it comes from not wanting to put in the work (months to years). And some of it comes from unwillingness to accept what they may find on the other side.

"It is important to recognize that we do not control what feelings will arise in us. We can only control our reaction to our feelings."

Great post, Au Naturel. You're right about Epicurus, the Stoics, and Buddhism. I'd add the Cynics, as well. Keeping in mind the origins of the words stoic, cynic, cosmopolitan, and sophisticated has been helpful to me, too. They have changed quite a bit.

One interesting thing with Buddhism is the overlap with the Cynics, Stoics, Spinoza, Shakespeare, Heraclitus, and others. Epicurus also promoted a middle way, and life free from fear, of course. These are many people, essentially pointing in the same direction. Even Jesus could be added to this list.

 

[Kayla55]

Emotional support:
When you were down and rapped, we helped all who needy.
When you needed backup to install policies on who helped red Indians and which people brought real values to life, we gave you back your dream.

Yet you try to deport our freedom fighters, knowing they will leave peacefully when you honour the deal and give back to others what you took when needy. As Marley said first trumpet might as well be last, and hopeful that humanity accepts Armageddon is fulfilled by lack love, mercy and forgiveness..... And if you believe in humanitarian spirit can be powerful, then so it shall be.

 

[Kayla55]

I've assessed the situation in Africa...
Poverty is the problem.
But there's more to it, so RSA lost the majority vote but no weapon against us shall prosper. Crime is more widespread than just south Africa, and black people even in neighbouring countries suffer more than the whites.
And I've said it before and will say it again.... The DA in cape cannot resolve crime problem, the coloured community doesn't contribute or pull their weight to justify blaming the police minister. Best to ask George Soros and Japanese who work for USA who what crime is purposeful and which crime is poverty under fire.
We may act now thinking it's beneficial but in long run the unresolved issues will still be there.
Let's quit the blame game.

 

[Kayla55]

Elon musk doesn't know south Africa like I do, he's also using his status to accredit himself with more connections like Mileu that he himself believes.
Elon musk knows less about Julius malema and is best not to bite hand that feeds you.
Thank you elon

 

[Kayla55]

Jezzabel repents, and past mistakes of vile theft of fortification with bruce-lee was forgiven. It will no longer be necessary to throw evil out window, for dogs to eat.
Abundant blessings shall come, and the true wicked manipulator who used and abused jezzabel shall dig out rotten cheetah leg, it shall be installed in his vile manipulating mouth, and all from revelation shall be removed. In disgrace he shall either away lacking nutrition from good people he'd neglected in his persuit of power. Even the Asperger's who lacked diagnosis and privileged lives shall prosper on his fall.

 

[Kayla55]

https://www.autismforums.com/threads/greta-thunberg-gains-life-experience.48318/

I have to go deal with some stuff, and I'll be busy at loan shark, can't be a sell out so I'll face music, my friends need me.

 

[Au Naturel]

Great post, Au Naturel. You're right about Epicurus, the Stoics, and Buddhism. I'd add the Cynics, as well. Keeping in mind the origins of the words stoic, cynic, cosmopolitan, and sophisticated has been helpful to me, too. They have changed quite a bit.

One interesting thing with Buddhism is the overlap with the Cynics, Stoics, Spinoza, Shakespeare, Heraclitus, and others. Epicurus also promoted a middle way, and life free from fear, of course. These are many people, essentially pointing in the same direction. Even Jesus could be added to this list.

Yes! I see many minds approaching the same principles from different directions. There are more modern voices that speak to me as well. Victor Frankle comes to mind. So does Albert Camus, Herman Hesse, and Franz Kafka. Sometimes, even fictional works of literature can be a source of philosophical thought.

The Japanese aesthetics of Shibumi and Wabi-sabi have also had a strong influence on me. I can't call them full-blown philosophies, but they have impact.

 

[Mr. Stevens]

A couple thoughts which were helpful for me today, especially in letting go of ideas:

"When we do not expect anything we can be ourselves. That is our way, to live fully in each moment of time."

"All descriptions of reality are limited expressions of the world of emptiness. Yet we attach to the descriptions and think they are reality. That is a mistake."

- Shunryu Suzuki