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Suffering from a lot of depression...

UberScout

UberScout

Please Don't Be Mad At Me 02/09/1996
V.I.P Member

In this situation my family and I are in, nothing seems to be getting better.

I can't say much, just that we're in a typical situation that lots of other people are in. But it's starting to suck the life out of me. The cycle remains unbroken and the people I have to be around (not my family) aren't making the situation much better; in fact those people are actually making it worse. At the shelter I'm staying, I've had everyone there start to refer to me as a "child" when I've shown and told them that I am very well over twenty years old, WHICH IS NOT THE AGE OF A CHILD. I've put emphasis on this till I'm blue in the face and yet they still refer to me as such. The friends I did make there are now turning their opinion on me around and reversing it, and now they're going from friends to enemies. The people that work there said they can't help us with our situation. We've got zero friends to help us.

We've been thrown into a hole we can't dig ourselves out of. And that hole is getting deeper every day.

I don't know what to say except: We're just going to die in this lonely world... and there might only be one way out of it.
 
UberScout said:
At the shelter I'm staying, I've had everyone there start to refer to me as a "child" when I've shown and told them that I am very well over twenty years old, WHICH IS NOT THE AGE OF A CHILD. I've put emphasis on this till I'm blue in the face and yet they still refer to me as such
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You are giving them your power.

By letting them know what annoys you, you give them the opportunity to do it more.
Taking care of yourself can be learning to stay silent.

How open are you to responding or acting differently?

You can change the outcome by changing what you do.

Takes effort.

UberScout said:
We've been thrown into a hole we can't dig ourselves out of. And that hole is getting deeper every day
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Define the hole.
Perhaps it has 100 different parts.
Label them.
Work on it, bit by bit.

In each situation define your outcome.

There is great power in self mastery.
Learning silence,when to act.
Silence can disarm your enemies.

Nobody here has it, but we are all ,bit by bit,increasing our percentage.

BTW most people till about 40 are childish..
Learning that this is a trigger point for you
You are responsible for your own trigger points.
They can be changed.
Takes work.
 
@UberScout

I'm confused.
Who's staying at the shelter?
Just you?
Or are some of your family members there, too?

I ask because you were saying "I" but then switched to "we,"
and I don't understand who the "we" is.

"The friends I did make there are now turning their opinion on me around and reversing it, and now they're going from friends to enemies.
The people that work there said they can't help us with our situation. We've got zero friends to help us.

We've been thrown into a hole we can't dig ourselves out of."

Who is "we"?
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Sounds like the people who refer to you as "child" are
to implying that you're helpless/powerless, like a child,
not that they believe you are chronologically a child/kid.

So repeatedly telling them your age isn't going to have any
effect on them.
 
UberScout said:

In this situation my family and I are in, nothing seems to be getting better.

I can't say much, just that we're in a typical situation that lots of other people are in. But it's starting to suck the life out of me. The cycle remains unbroken and the people I have to be around (not my family) aren't making the situation much better; in fact those people are actually making it worse. At the shelter I'm staying, I've had everyone there start to refer to me as a "child" when I've shown and told them that I am very well over twenty years old, WHICH IS NOT THE AGE OF A CHILD. I've put emphasis on this till I'm blue in the face and yet they still refer to me as such. The friends I did make there are now turning their opinion on me around and reversing it, and now they're going from friends to enemies. The people that work there said they can't help us with our situation. We've got zero friends to help us.

We've been thrown into a hole we can't dig ourselves out of. And that hole is getting deeper every day.

I don't know what to say except: We're just going to die in this lonely world... and there might only be one way out of it.
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Actually, in the American system of social services, some systems classify up to age 24 as “children.” I learned this at my new job this past week! So, at the shelter, you might just be in that classification.

Another thing: to older folks, you are a “child” because it’s a term of endearment and anyone even age 29 or 30 is still very young. Trust me- You will understand this someday. I would not let it bother you. People are not going to change.

I worked with people who lived in shelters. I too was homeless for months,many years ago. It sucks, but it’s not the end of the world. What is MUCH worse, is living out on the streets having to sell your body just to eat. Age 20 and at the mercy of the streets, drug dealers, Johns, and pimps is WAY worse than the shelters.
 
"I" refers to just me, staying in the shelter. "We" refers to my family.
 
Fridgemagnetman said:
You are giving them your power.

By letting them know what annoys you, you give them the opportunity to do it more.
Taking care of yourself can be learning to stay silent.

How open are you to responding or acting differently?

You can change the outcome by changing what you do.

Takes effort.



Define the hole.
Perhaps it has 100 different parts.
Label them.
Work on it, bit by bit.

In each situation define your outcome.

There is great power in self mastery.
Learning silence,when to act.
Silence can disarm your enemies.

Nobody here has it, but we are all ,bit by bit,increasing our percentage.

BTW most people till about 40 are childish..
Learning that this is a trigger point for you
You are responsible for your own trigger points.
They can be changed.
Takes work.
Click to expand...
The hole I refer to is the endless, hellish, looping cycle of misery and misfortune, the constant repeating circle of events that keeps repeating over and over that affect us, each time it happens having a greater impact on the situation.
 
Yeah. Our only hope as of right now is a friend loaning us some money in the coming days. We don't know if she'll give us enough though.
 
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