Sometimes can't talk, doesn't mean not listening

[grommet]

I find it very difficult to post to the website, just like when I sometimes cannot talk. It hurts when I try to force something out.

I want people to know I am not ignoring anyone and I do want to talk. Sometimes I just can't. I come to the website and I read. I have things to say but it's impossible.

I am trying to feel better and give myself less stress by not making myself do things that are so hard for me.

I do not think I am the only one here who has this problem but I do not know about other people.

Rocco I love your paintings and I want to say things but I can't right now.

For some of us who are here and cannot talk sometimes please believe that we are here and doing our best and we do want to participate. Sometimes for a while it may just be without talking.

 

[Omega]

Could not say it better and thank you for saying it.

 

[grommet]

Thank you. Tears. Smile.

 

[Judge]

One step at a time...and on your terms. Whatever works for you.

 

[Datura]

That is quite understandable, grommet. Don't feel any pressure to contribute. The forum will not die without you posting constantly, though it is nice when you do contribute. Just do what comes naturally. I am sure nobody is upset with you, so there is no need to apologize.

 

[qwerty]

I find it very difficult to post to the website, just like when I sometimes cannot talk. It hurts when I try to force something out.

I want people to know I am not ignoring anyone and I do want to talk. Sometimes I just can't. I come to the website and I read. I have things to say but it's impossible.

I am trying to feel better and give myself less stress by not making myself do things that are so hard for me.

I do not think I am the only one here who has this problem but I do not know about other people.

Rocco I love your paintings and I want to say things but I can't right now.

For some of us who are here and cannot talk sometimes please believe that we are here and doing our best and we do want to participate. Sometimes for a while it may just be without talking.

Well done! it sounds like this must have been very difficult for you to post. I agree with everyone here. I remember when I couldn't speak for a few years and I know how hard it can be, you will always be part of this community and belong whether you post or not. Any other Aspies out there who feel unable to post know you are all valued and as important as anyone in this community.

 

[Progster]

Yes, I understand. I have days when I'm overloaded or tired, have low energy levels and I just don't feel like posting anything, and I just read instead. This is one reason why I don't start many threads. Sometimes threads have a strong emotional component, and I'm not good with dealing with emotional issues, even though I want to help, and I feel guilty for not posting anything.

There's no obligation to post, you can post as often or as little as you like.

 

[NateSean]

I've said it before and I'll say it again: You are not required to be switched on 24/7 for everyone else's benefit. Even perpetual motion machines have an off switch.

My boyfriend and I had this discussion a few times recently. There are times when I can talk a mile a minute about a subject and an act of Congress won't stop me. Then there are times when I keep my enthusiasm to two or three words maximum and J doesn't know if I'm enjoying myself or not. (Mind you, I'm only being conservative because he has also told me that I come off too strong at times. Oh, but that's only because at the last party I was at, his job was apparently to test the couch cushion while I interacted with people who were mostly his friends, but that's a story for another day.)

 

[watersprite]

When I post I always have in mind that some may be reading - listening - but not responding.

I have been sharing here on AC even though I am aware of my tendency to errors, of staring things that are not new, obvious to others, and repeating myself, among other problems with my communication.

 

[Datura]

I think you communicate just fine, kestrel.

 

[Cerulean]

I understand this too. Sometimes in person, it's physically hard to make the sounds come out of my mouth, and sometimes online my fingers just sit on the keys until I give up.

 

[Warmheart]

Grommet, you said perfectly what many of us feel like. Thank you.

Our minds and hearts can be full, but we may not yet have the resources to connect and express what minds and hearts hold.

We feel, and respectfully understand, what cannot always be expressed conversationally or conventionally.