Social Attack

[danielcollins]

For some reason I can't post in the aspergers specific forum.. odd!

It's been a while since I've posted on here, time disappears so quickly.. I'm interested to know other peoples experiences and coping mechanisms for tight social situations.

I'm finding some mornings at work, I have both a physical and a logical list of all the things I need to do for the day and if someone interrupts me doing this I can get quite stressed. I like to get all of my things done in order of priority first before chit-chatting to colleagues.

So some mornings I come in and I'm interrupted 2,3-4 times when someone wants to chat. It's making me quite stressed and anxious (my vision blures and I struggle to focus) because I can't do what I need to do.

I'm probably too polite to say "Could we talk after I've finished my jobs for the morning please" (which is probably the best answer) so think I'd struggle with that kind of confrontation.

This sometimes gets to a point where I feel quite drained and empty of energy, because I'm trying not to be rude but also focus on other things. (although this is a strong word, when it gets very bad I think it's appropriate) I've called it social rape because I feel caught out and emotionally drained.

I wonder if anyone else has the same or similar problems?

 

[umbrellabeach]

Yes, since people don't know when to stop and leave me alone. Even if I tell them I need to do something, it takes forever just for them to say goodbye. I guess they don't think my work is very important, but I think it is.

 

[AsheSkyler]

I am not a morning person and I tend to make it well-known that I need time to wake up. It is physically painful to have too many demands made of me before I've had time to get my senses in working order so lights, sounds, and everything doesn't hurt. In fact, my mom once called her 80-year-old mother-in-law to come down at 6AM to squish a scorpion because the notion of waking me up was scarier than that of dealing with a scorpion.

 

[danielcollins]

Yes, since people don't know when to stop and leave me alone. Even if I tell them I need to do something, it takes forever just for them to say goodbye. I guess they don't think my work is very important, but I think it is.

And even if it isn't important, it's what you had planned so it's still disturbing. I realise that NT's probably don't do it on purpose, but that doesn't make it any easier.

Once I've sorted my jobs out, usually around.. 12pm I'm happy - totally happy to have a chat. Providing I'm not in the middle of something..

I've found that I either ignore someone, which I hate doing.. or I try and do both things at once which they probably thing is rude but it sorta helps.