Safe place to leave an Asperger 13 year old girl with aggressive behavior

[AspergerDad]

Hi,

This is my first posting so I apologize if this has been answered.

I'm the dad of an 13 year old girl with Asperger. Looking back, I'm pretty sure I was on the spectrum too when I was growing up and probably still am but I deal with it much better now.

My daughter gets aggressive from time to time (push and scratch) with her mom and caregivers. I'm the only one who is strong enough that she doesn't try to hurt amongst the family and caregivers. This is a big challenge because that means I have to be close by all the time. This can get very exhausting as you can imagine.

Is there a place that I could leave her for 3-5 hours so her mom and I can relax? Looking back, I think my parents used to lock me in my room and had caregivers watch me. I obviously won't be doing that. Thanks much!

 

[Gritches]

Not sure what country you're in, or even if you're in the US whether the state would matter or not, but at least in my state/country there are day-care services for individuals with special needs of all ages offered through the Department of Human Services. That's probably the case in all states, but what I know is the case in all states is that your first point of contact to pursue such services would be a social worker through your county Human Services Department.

Good luck

 

[Jimbo]

That's a tough one. Sounds like she has aggression towards authority figures so maybe someone that she sees as more of a friend and less threatening. Maybe if there is an aunt or another relative that she gets along good with that could take her to do things she likes to do for awhile.

 

[Streetwise]

for me knowing i might lose something especially my mother made me stop and being allowed to leave
let her know what its like to not have her parents
its really hard

 

[Crossbreed]

@AspergerDad , is she verbal or non-verbal? Our 22yo LFA daughter has a mental age of 18mos. Her bedroom doubles as a safe play space when she needs a time-out, but we purposefully removed the top half of her door so she can still see us at those times (and not feel so isolated).

We had a full Dutch door at a previous house, which is better for sleeping. Since she is not completely potty trained, she has a bedside commode for those times that she can't get to the regular toilet on time.