StabatMater
Active Member
I have a question I hope I can get male insight on. Ladies, feel free to respond as well.
I'm Aspie and I have a guy friend who has Aspie tendencies, but isn't actually AS. We are very close and he is very precious to me, in fact that most precious person to me in the whole world. He understands my Aspieness and everything else about me. We are friends, not romantically involved, but I think he may like me and I certainly like him. Anyway, he has been calling me by affectionate names like "dear", which he started doing on his own, for probably a month now (we've been friends for a long time). I don't know what that means. But I want to call him something that expresses my love and respect for him and I'm not sure what. I pathologically despise many "pet names" (Over my dead body, you'll call me "Babe" or something like that), but his are very sweet and respectful. I've been calling him "dear" and "my friend", but I don't want him to think I'm parroting back what he is saying to me with the first. Even though I feel it completely. As for calling him friend, I am a little worried that he will think I am emphasizing to him that I love him only as a friend, with no possibility for anything more.
Would you think that is the case? For me, to actually call someone friend means that they are intimately known, respected, and loved by me (and by intimate, I mean close, nothing to do with anything else...) and that is an extremely small circle of people for me.
And any ideas? I hope this makes some sense, LOL.
I'm Aspie and I have a guy friend who has Aspie tendencies, but isn't actually AS. We are very close and he is very precious to me, in fact that most precious person to me in the whole world. He understands my Aspieness and everything else about me. We are friends, not romantically involved, but I think he may like me and I certainly like him. Anyway, he has been calling me by affectionate names like "dear", which he started doing on his own, for probably a month now (we've been friends for a long time). I don't know what that means. But I want to call him something that expresses my love and respect for him and I'm not sure what. I pathologically despise many "pet names" (Over my dead body, you'll call me "Babe" or something like that), but his are very sweet and respectful. I've been calling him "dear" and "my friend", but I don't want him to think I'm parroting back what he is saying to me with the first. Even though I feel it completely. As for calling him friend, I am a little worried that he will think I am emphasizing to him that I love him only as a friend, with no possibility for anything more.
Would you think that is the case? For me, to actually call someone friend means that they are intimately known, respected, and loved by me (and by intimate, I mean close, nothing to do with anything else...) and that is an extremely small circle of people for me.
And any ideas? I hope this makes some sense, LOL.