Kaylee
Well-Known Member
apology in advance for spelling,
a few months ago i entered into a relationship i have never experienced before,
The relationship simply is a Poly Fidelious relationship meaning it has the aspects of exclusivity that comes from a monogamous relationship although applied with 3 people instead of 2, meaning i am dating 2 people who are dating each other as well, we are all basically dating each other but otherwise it is the same as a monogamous relationship
this sounds like something odd or hard to deal with, especially with a social disorder but thats where my 2nd point comes into play,
My GF clearly has aspergers, and my BF as much as he doesnt want to admit it falls somewhere on the spectrum. most likely Atypical autisim as his issues seem a bit more sparatic, and more like an autisim grab bag. still both high functioning.
As it is we are all introverts and have a hard time expressing ourselves. my BF can at times feel left out because of the crazy amount of connection my GF and I have considering we have the same condition and he is unwilling to admit he falls somewhere on the spectrum. Communication has been a tricking thing with constant apologizing from all ends (as we all have issues explaining ourselves and what we mean by a topic) and with people not wanting to bring up a topic because we either feel like we wont be listened to in the heat of the moment or that we will have to deal with our comments will be misinterpreted. this doesnt help that an issue we all have is that even though we mean well by what we say we are all fairly bad at inflection and sound like we are talking down to each other.
Now i would like to bring up that this is not a constant thing, it isnt proof that the relationship is not working, as we all get along great, i love both of my partners so much and i am happy to have them. this is more of my actual complaints and issues that have happened over the past few months of this relationship, while we are getting better i would love to hear from people who has an aspie partner along with aspies who have experiences in relationships like this.
If you would like to comment with hate, agression, questions that may be mildly offensive or the like feel free to send me a private message. i just ask you keep the thread free of any hate or anything that could be seen as offensive.
a few months ago i entered into a relationship i have never experienced before,
The relationship simply is a Poly Fidelious relationship meaning it has the aspects of exclusivity that comes from a monogamous relationship although applied with 3 people instead of 2, meaning i am dating 2 people who are dating each other as well, we are all basically dating each other but otherwise it is the same as a monogamous relationship
this sounds like something odd or hard to deal with, especially with a social disorder but thats where my 2nd point comes into play,
My GF clearly has aspergers, and my BF as much as he doesnt want to admit it falls somewhere on the spectrum. most likely Atypical autisim as his issues seem a bit more sparatic, and more like an autisim grab bag. still both high functioning.
As it is we are all introverts and have a hard time expressing ourselves. my BF can at times feel left out because of the crazy amount of connection my GF and I have considering we have the same condition and he is unwilling to admit he falls somewhere on the spectrum. Communication has been a tricking thing with constant apologizing from all ends (as we all have issues explaining ourselves and what we mean by a topic) and with people not wanting to bring up a topic because we either feel like we wont be listened to in the heat of the moment or that we will have to deal with our comments will be misinterpreted. this doesnt help that an issue we all have is that even though we mean well by what we say we are all fairly bad at inflection and sound like we are talking down to each other.
Now i would like to bring up that this is not a constant thing, it isnt proof that the relationship is not working, as we all get along great, i love both of my partners so much and i am happy to have them. this is more of my actual complaints and issues that have happened over the past few months of this relationship, while we are getting better i would love to hear from people who has an aspie partner along with aspies who have experiences in relationships like this.
If you would like to comment with hate, agression, questions that may be mildly offensive or the like feel free to send me a private message. i just ask you keep the thread free of any hate or anything that could be seen as offensive.