People don't like me not putting them in a box

[Wolfgangus Faldestolius]

... pigeon-holeable identity, finally feeling part of a group.

I always had my identity and that didn't change when I found out about my SpLDs.
I put in an effort at things and most others show they feel threatened by that.
For me, pigeon holes are different from identity and I am at ease in a group where others don't try to pigeon hole themselves.
I find having something in common isn't an identity, it's having something in common.
Hence camaraderie doesn't come from having the "same identity". Cameraderie comes from being unique and at home with it, and able to have rapport with others.
I have never thought I was more special than anyone, I noticed that most others thought they weren't special (but overcompensated wrongly).
I don't consider any of you have the "same identity" as me. Why would it stop us having things in common? Is the confusion over this a generation thing?
The camaraderie here isn't the issue in my OP.
My main point was how the people who don't seem to have ASC seem to hide in their sameyness. Obviously if they "tick" in a similar way fair enough in its own terms but that doesn't mean they shouldn't see themselves (the non-ASC) as unique.

 

[watersprite]

I don't, that's part of my point. But the crucial part of it is that other people - and this is cultural more than diagnosis-related - seem to resent not being dealt with automatically according to a status that I can't see: I only see them as them.

And yet, even your behaviour is predictable to a certain extent.

 

[Kalinychta]

I always had my identity and that didn't change when I found out about my SpLDs.
I put in an effort at things and most others show they feel threatened by that.
For me, pigeon holes are different from identity and I am at ease in a group where others don't try to pigeon hole themselves.
I find having something in common isn't an identity, it's having something in common.
Hence camaraderie doesn't come from having the "same identity". Cameraderie comes from being unique and at home with it, and able to have rapport with others.
I have never thought I was more special than anyone, I noticed that most others thought they weren't special (but overcompensated wrongly).
I don't consider any of you have the "same identity" as me. Why would it stop us having things in common? Is the confusion over this a generation thing?
The camaraderie here isn't the issue in my OP.
My main point was how the people who don't seem to have ASC seem to hide in their sameyness. Obviously if they "tick" in a similar way fair enough in its own terms but that doesn't mean they shouldn't see themselves (the non-ASC) as unique.

Touché.

 

[Kalinychta]

Yeah you`re right. I have just always had difficulty feeling like I`m a part of anything. Always stuck on the outside looking in.

That’s very true. Me, too. It’s funny because meeting other autistic people made me feel part of a “group” sort of but also made me feel like I’m still me. Like autistic people are still people. We are by no means all the same.