He has been chained, it's trying to get him to the next step of breaking those chains. It's a big door to cross thru. Sometimes l think he is going thru that door, then his mom shows up and keeps him from going thru the door of obtaining independence and no contact. I just keep hoping he gets there, like everyone else at this forum wishes for him. But the pattern of emeshment keeps pulling him in, because it's a familiar feeling, and his identity his based on his mom's reality and not his reality. 
