No bandages can I leave it?

[FayetheADHDsquirrel]

I agree with others: ER or doctor and a contact with a police and/or social services. Even if your father is fine for 99% of time, that 1% is still too much, especially if it wasn't the only time something like that happened.

It sounds as though this kind of behavior is the norm from his father, not just a 1% of the time thing. His father simply injured him even worse than usual this time. Medical professionals and law enforcement definitely should both be involved.

My dad insults and punches me whenever he sees me so I don't like spending time outside my room. I can cook carbs quickly because of oatmeal and pressure cookers but meat requires using a pan in the kitchen for about 30min.


I keep a fridge in my room and am planning to buy a small pressure cooker and maybe an oven so I won't have to leave my room except to wash my dishes.

Using the toaster oven, I can simply place the meat on a plate, add some salt/spices and wait for a while. Not using a pan also means that I can spend less time outside washing stuff. If I use this (small) oven will I be able to do most of my cooking in my own room?

 

[FayetheADHDsquirrel]

I'm getting really concerned. He hasn't responded since describing what may have been signs of going into shock. I wish we could call 911 for him, but I don't see how because we don't know his address.

 

[the_tortoise]

Because I pretty much never go to the hospital (at this point absolutely never will again unless physically forced against my will)....

Had a doctor tell me that if I ever get a bad cut again I can use regular superglue to close it.

It is actually the same adhesive compound used in the alternative-to-stiches skin glue hospitals use for cuts that would otherwise get a few stitches -- but be aware: is not as pure, there is risk of toxic contaminants in superglue (because the tolerable level of contamination for a medical product is way higher than for stuff that is not meant to be used to close wounds)

(doctor that advised me was surprised when I told him this later but maintained that I could still use superglue because likely risks from contaminants were probably minimal)

A different doctor closed a bad cut for me at an ER many years ago with skin glue...I think because I was so visibly terrified and not coping well and they were so busy -- skin glue would not require local anesthetic nor carry risk of me freaking out

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[Outdated]

I'm getting really concerned. He hasn't responded since describing what may have been signs of going into shock. I wish we could call 911 for him, but I don't see how because we don't know his address.

She. And calling 911 won't do anyone any good outside of the United Sates.

 

[tree]

Dad swung at me with a beer bottle, I have a medium sized gash on my upper arm.

Like in a bar fight in a movie?
He slashed at you with a broken glass bottle?

Has this happened before?

 

[Ronald Zeeman]

Just go to ER. Tell them your parents wouldn't bring you. They will look at it. I was desperate, l had a bad cut from a kitchen knife. I put super glue on it. I had to re-apply several times, it finally stayed closed and heal, but it seemed like it was at least three weeks. They do sell things to help at drug store, can you go there and check? In my case, l didn't want to go to ER. I was very stressed at the time.

Yes super glue great idea that is how they found it developed during vietnam war, for closing wounds.

 

[Judge]

She. And calling 911 won't do anyone any good outside of the United Sates.

This is what concerns me about this thread. Everyone is projecting their concerns based on domestic notions of seeking immediate medical care.

We don't even know if the OP resides here...or what their resources entail in terms of being able to access such services. That without such details, all these good intentions may be for naught.

Yet sadly under the circumstances, it's also understandable that the OP may be quite reticent to provide such details.

 

[UFO]

You are right. I realize that having an access to Internet and free-to-join discussion forums is not an indication of even minimal accessible services.

I am saying this as an overall comment about the protocol, not meaning to get defensive or anything:

How should we act differently? To not encourage her to seek medical and social help? I realize that she might have both personal and society related restrictions, but I also hope that she don't have, and that she is just hesitating getting things done, and then I act based on that hope because I can't figure out what else could I do.

(I also realize, that repeating useless advice is annoying as hell, at least it is to me, but it is still better than just ignoring without any better knowledge about the circumstances)

 

[Judge]

You are right. I realize that having an access to Internet and free-to-join discussion forums is not an indication of even minimal accessible services.

I am saying this as an overall comment about the protocol, not meaning to get defensive or anything:

How should we act differently?

That's largely up to the OP.

If they want to volunteer more information to be of further help, that's fine. However the OP may also be looking only for some very limited potential solutions that don't involve professional medical services. Which in case they may have what they wanted and may not pursue any more suggestions.

 

[UFO]

Well... At least I answered to her initial question about whitish layer in a way I understood it, and others suggested other possibilities and dangers to consider. So if she was really interested only about the wound, she got the answer to that. I agree that dwelling further and getting agitated about this is pointless until we hear more about her.

 

[Judge]

Well... At least I answered to her initial question about whitish layer in a way I understood it, and others suggested other possibilities and dangers to consider. So if she was really interested only about the wound, she got the answer to that. I agree that dwelling further and getting agitated about this is pointless until we hear more about her.

And to respect her privacy and anonymity if she chooses not to respond further. Though I think we all recognize her situation as being a dire one.

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