Hi, I am not in the first flush of youth, divorced and have been in a "relationship" for a number of years with a guy that I thought was just a bit "odd" & who is of a similar age. He is a respected professional, lives on his own and has never been married.
For the first few years it was stop/ go, he would not contact me for weeks and then make contact as if it was perfectly normal. I explained how this upset me and we seemed to settle into a situation where we kind of muddled along. We had great weekends away, he visited my place for weekends & I accepted this situation. He did not want to meet my family or friends, he would not attend my family's weddings, birthday celebrations etc and he very reluctantly occasionally attended his own family functions but without inviting me. When both my brother and then sister died he did not go to the funerals.
One evening whilst out to dinner he unusually took a call from a male friend making arrangements for a cycling trip, he pretended to his friend he was on his own. I was terribly upset & eventually ended up breaking up with him. He wrote & called saying he did not understand why I was so upset and angry but apologised.
We got back together, things seemed to be fine until he recently had to go into hospital for an operation. He told me he didn't want me to visit, call or help out in any way & that he would contact me when he had recovered.
A close friend suggested that maybe he was on the Asperger's Syndrome & while I was researching on the internet I cam across this site & well folks, that is how and why I am here.
Any thoughts, ideas, suggestions?
For the first few years it was stop/ go, he would not contact me for weeks and then make contact as if it was perfectly normal. I explained how this upset me and we seemed to settle into a situation where we kind of muddled along. We had great weekends away, he visited my place for weekends & I accepted this situation. He did not want to meet my family or friends, he would not attend my family's weddings, birthday celebrations etc and he very reluctantly occasionally attended his own family functions but without inviting me. When both my brother and then sister died he did not go to the funerals.
One evening whilst out to dinner he unusually took a call from a male friend making arrangements for a cycling trip, he pretended to his friend he was on his own. I was terribly upset & eventually ended up breaking up with him. He wrote & called saying he did not understand why I was so upset and angry but apologised.
We got back together, things seemed to be fine until he recently had to go into hospital for an operation. He told me he didn't want me to visit, call or help out in any way & that he would contact me when he had recovered.
A close friend suggested that maybe he was on the Asperger's Syndrome & while I was researching on the internet I cam across this site & well folks, that is how and why I am here.
Any thoughts, ideas, suggestions?
