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OmegaGreen17

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Well...umm;

Im not looking forward to this week in school, im having what I like to call, a identity crisis..

I feel like im losing who I used to be, a nerd, with little friends....but a good heart and stayed on top of his work...to a guy with lots of mates.....but feeling I have to change to please them....

Im sure you have all seen the same things from me in different topics "Why dont girls like me" , "Im so lame" etc...

Generally, I need some sort of bloody miracle to get out of this depressive rut... by solving these issues...somehow, because they WILL come back.
 
I often wonder whether I really want to change, and if high social status is something I strive for or deep down... despise.
I think I'd be very quick to push the people away, so I congratulate you on doing so.
I think ultimately it comes down to what you want socially. Do you want a lot of friends? What would one ultimately achieve in the acquisition of more friends? Can you cope with more friends? Etc.
I mean, do you like the idea of you as a person being more social?
I don't know what I'd do in your situation... I wonder about it a lot. The last time I had a considerable amount of friends was before I abandoned them all...
EMZ=]
 
I know its easier said than done, but it's just a case of trying to relax a bit more, Josh.

If it exhausts you, you don't have to make the extra effort to keep friends, if they're really bothered, they'll understand, and won't take offense. I always tried to make friendss through school, until around year 10 when I realised I was perfectly happy just being a loner. :) Lol.
 
Nothing wrong with making more friends but keep in mind you don't owe these people anything,stay true to

yourself.

Personal change can be good but sometimes it can cost way too much to be one of the gang.

Above all don't let them talk you into doing anything illegal.immoral or dangerous.
 
I once changed who I was to gain friends, it turns out they were all superficial and didn't want me once a small part of me came out when I had some trouble with something and got upset. The problem with changing is that at some point, something will happen that means you don't want to 'act' anymore, and they pick up on it. With me, they ditched me and that was the end of it. Next time I was in a position to make friends, I was just myself from the start and people will like you, only difference is, they won't have a reason to ditch you when you 'be yourself' because it's all you'll have ever been. I find it more pleasing to have one or two friends that I know I can rely on and I know will be there for ever, rather than loads of people who I could talk to about superficial things but nothing more, and who will inevitably drift away from me...usually rather quickly.
 
One thing i've learned from by brother (he is the mastermind of socialising haha) is that people will change. People move on for many reasons. You may not necessarily be the reason that they move on. So make the most of it while you still have them.

Also, I agree that it's best to be yourself from day one. Try to be honest and don't put on an act. Be "real".
 
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