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If you are on the autistic spectrum, are you or have you been in a romantic relationship?

If you are on the autistic spectrum, are you or have you been in a romantic relationship?

  • Yes.

    Votes: 66 76.7%
  • No

    Votes: 20 23.3%

  • Total voters
    86
Now you tell us? šŸ¤”

What do you think that bit means Cooper, what was her tone and facial expression when she said it? Has she ever shown affection during your friendship?
@Captain Cooper

This extra bit of info you shared could be a block. I'd still ask anyway, you shouldn't feel embarrassed if she turns you down, as I think any man would shoot their shot, It's a man's job to go down in flames. Who would blame you, sharing that dream does sound like a big hint!
She's probably aware you like her. Worst case scenario is you've given her a compliment.
 
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I had a dream that a world leader was trying to seduce me.
Hopped into my bed.
A vile individual that I detest completely.

True story...
I laughed myself silly. 🤣

I'd like to phone a friend..

*Calls Freud* ...
 
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What do you think that bit means Cooper, what was her tone and facial expression when she said it? Has she ever shown affection during your friendship?
@Captain Cooper

This extra bit of info you shared could be a block. I'd still ask anyway, you shouldn't feel embarrassed if she turns you down, as I think any man would shoot their shot, It's a man's job to go down in flames. Who would blame you, sharing that dream does sound like a big hint!
She's probably aware you like her. Worst case scenario is you've given her a compliment.

She posted this in a private social media message.

We're very affectionate with each other. We'll say "I love you" to one another and so on.

And I'm sure she knows that I find her attractive.

I always took it for granted that she only saw me as a friend.
 
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Perhaps I am a closeted gay man who has a power fetish. šŸ¤”
You never stop learning about yourself, do you? ;)
does the name of this world leader
sound like 'poop + a certain silvery metal'? Sounds vaguely like a receptacle for dog waste?
 
She posted this in a private social media message.

We're very affectionate with each other. We'll say "I love you" to one another and so on.

And I'm sure she knows that I find her attractive.

I always took it for granted that she only saw me as a friend.
There may be a psychological factor that takes over from hormonal sexual attraction/interest, but in essence/generally, if the sex hormone is low or non-existent, there goes the libido.

There are those who are on the periphery of the bell curve, however.

Why haven't you asked her out yet šŸ˜‚ Giggedy.
I have been asking this very question for some time. šŸ¤”
 
There may be a psychological factor that takes over from hormonal sexual attraction/interest, but in essence/generally, if the sex hormone is low or non-existent, there goes the libido.

There are those who are on the periphery of the bell curve, however.

Come again?
 
Why would you not simply ask?
How could it damage the relationship you already have?

I'd be surprised if she wasn't aware of your interest, based on what you have said.

Like I've said before, I'm just looking for opinions here.

Thanks for your messages, though. They are appreciated.
 
This extra bit of info you shared could be a block. I'd still ask anyway, you shouldn't feel embarrassed if she turns you down, <snip>
She's probably aware you like her. Worst case scenario is you've given her a compliment.
Why feel embarrassed? šŸ¤”
It is a compliment to her.

Perhaps I am channelling Pepe Le Pew. šŸ¤”;)
 
We think I'm on the spectrum but I don't really know how to answer this (or if I should). There was this online game I used to play when I was 17-20 and a boy and his cousins (dunno if they were actually related or if all 3 were just one person (you could have this game open on one computer with different avatars all at once playing) or what) and all 3 of them thought I was online dating the boy (though I never said anything to prove that?) so I had to "break up" with him and none of them took it well. But I NEVER considered myself in a romantic relationship with him, aro-ace!
 
In our community, one is expected to use a system of brokered meetings called Shidduchim. Its only goal is marriage; hanging out to hang out isn't okay. Working within that framework, I've gone on one solitary date. Our incompatibility was clear to me in minutes.

A dozen years ago, a friend of my sisters developed a crush on me. We starting spending lots of time together and communicating by phone. There didn't seem to be a limit to how much she wanted to be with me. Although we were violating the community norms by having this relationship, we strictly kept the laws of not touching each other - at all. All of this was done without the knowledge of her parents.

Half a year in, it suddenly crashed when I found out that we weren't religiously allowed to marry. (It's complicated.) Literally in that minute, it was over in my mind. I had barely thought of us marrying but, somehow, I was only going to go along with such a relationship if it was possible.

Did I like our time together? Sometimes. Did I care about her? Absolutely. Did I love her? I doubt it. Could we have successfully made a life together? Neither of us were ready for it - but maybe. (She is married now.)

I'm still not ready, and I know not if I want it. It was three years ago this month that I told my brother, who had been handling proposals for me, to stop fielding them.
 
I think going by strictly technical definitions, I’d say I’ve been in one. It being long distance and with poor communication, even that is hard to say, really. Different expectations, different cultures, etc, and at the end of the day as with many of these potential suitors I fear I’ve simply been used for something or other yet again and feel I never learn. Kind of clear as day with conversation running dry and infrequent.

These days I feel the ship has sailed for any kind of hope for a relationship. I can not trust any given person not to take advantage or have some ulterior motive or simply not take things seriously at all and without thoughts for others…I choose to put myself first now more than ever, have nothing tangible nor emotional to offer anyone if they do not make it worth my while and so they don’t stay around. It is not like any given place is safe to meet anyone anymore given how many get ā€œthe ickā€ for any arbitrary reason, and dating apps are a waste of app data essentially. I’m far better off just enjoying my own time, especially with even just seeing how these things go within my own family, let alone in general.
 
I’ve been talking to a guy recently for about a month now. We’ve talked about meeting up in public at some point but haven’t made plans yet.
 
"Sex" or the intention of having sex at some point, must be involved.
I am not talking about platonic relationships/friendships.
Do romantic but asexual relationships count?

Not strictly platonic -- much more intimate and partner-y, just without sex -- do those count?

(Just curious....

Am not personally asexual and have had sex-involving relationships ...but am pretty close to asexual, in that I could marry someone and be perfectly happy never having sex with them.)
 
Yes, I am married. Have been so a long time. I don't know how he puts up with me to be honest, I never seem to do the right thing and have a fear of intimacy (or at least I am not good at it)
 

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