So, it doesn't bother me all that much anymore, but I've been curious for a few years now if I'm on the spectrum. I am weird, no doubt about it, and it used to bother me a lot when I was younger. Sometimes now but not usually. I'm starting to come to terms with who I am.
Anyway, the reason I think I might be on the spectrum is that when I read about the traits, it seems like I fit a lot of them, but I'm also not sure. I've been to therapy a lot for anxiety and depression, but no one has ever talked to me about this specific issue. In fact, I've been officially diagnosed by a psychiatrist as having Generalized Anxiety Disorder and take medication for it (and it works ok, not always but I'm much better).
For clarity, I'm 29, female, married, and I work as a web developer.
I know internet diagnosis is stupid, but I'm curious what real aspies think of my list, and if I should go back to the doctor. Or does it even really matter since I'm doing ok?
I DO have some huge challenges with my career, though. I'd say it's the most challenging part of my life. I have a hard time fitting in with the work environment, but I generally can get and keep jobs because I'm really good at what I do and always get my work done in spite of my problems (I'm an overachiever....I can't put up with not being as good as I can be at something, and I learn fast.), though I get a lot of lectures and 1 on 1 meetings with bosses about how I act and I cry a lot at really inappropriate times. I hate that because they always begin the meeting with "your work is great, but..." Apparently I roll my eyes and make faces in meetings sometimes too, but I'm never really aware of it. I do try to ask for accommodations at work like not being around a lot of noisy people or having people constantly walking behind me (drives me nuts) and not being surprised too often or given vague information, because I tend to freak out and assume the worst (this could well be the GAD). It helps, but I still have problems, particularly with my current boss who really wants me to change.
Here's some more things about me that really confuse my family and people I work with:
Thanks for reading! I'm also really verbose, particularly when I write!
Anyway, the reason I think I might be on the spectrum is that when I read about the traits, it seems like I fit a lot of them, but I'm also not sure. I've been to therapy a lot for anxiety and depression, but no one has ever talked to me about this specific issue. In fact, I've been officially diagnosed by a psychiatrist as having Generalized Anxiety Disorder and take medication for it (and it works ok, not always but I'm much better).
For clarity, I'm 29, female, married, and I work as a web developer.
I know internet diagnosis is stupid, but I'm curious what real aspies think of my list, and if I should go back to the doctor. Or does it even really matter since I'm doing ok?
I DO have some huge challenges with my career, though. I'd say it's the most challenging part of my life. I have a hard time fitting in with the work environment, but I generally can get and keep jobs because I'm really good at what I do and always get my work done in spite of my problems (I'm an overachiever....I can't put up with not being as good as I can be at something, and I learn fast.), though I get a lot of lectures and 1 on 1 meetings with bosses about how I act and I cry a lot at really inappropriate times. I hate that because they always begin the meeting with "your work is great, but..." Apparently I roll my eyes and make faces in meetings sometimes too, but I'm never really aware of it. I do try to ask for accommodations at work like not being around a lot of noisy people or having people constantly walking behind me (drives me nuts) and not being surprised too often or given vague information, because I tend to freak out and assume the worst (this could well be the GAD). It helps, but I still have problems, particularly with my current boss who really wants me to change.
Here's some more things about me that really confuse my family and people I work with:
- gargoyles, dragons and monsters are the #1 thing I tend to care about, and while I have other hobbies (video games, drawing, reading), I am pretty much always looking to draw, read about, think about or play stuff that involves those things. It isn't my only interest, but man....I daydream about them, I get a little cranky if I have to draw something besides them, and I don't want to read anything that doesn't have some sort of fantastic or weird creatures in it (aliens are ok too). An example: as soon as I found out that the new Star Wars MMO wasn't going to have cool aliens you could play as (according to me), I lost every bit of interest in the game. The only other thing that can pique my interest almost as much is history. My parents really thought I would grow out of this stuff but I never have. My knowledge of and willingness to watch and discuss the cartoon Gargoyles is as great now as it was when I was 14. However, I really try not to talk about this stuff to anyone because it annoys them or bothers them that I like a cartoon so much.
- I have one real friend, my husband, and a few online friends that I never see in person, and I'm totally fine with that. I also have a cat that I consider my friend. No one in my family gets it and constantly tries to encourage me to socialize more, but I don't want to.
- I cannot make eye contact for more than a few seconds, even with my husband, whom I've been with for 5 years
- I am terrible with being teased, it used to upset me SO MUCH as a child and nowadays I have to make an actual effort to be lighthearted about it. I make fun of myself a lot as a way to "teach" myself that it's ok
- I usually miss sarcasm unless it's laid on REALLY thick
- I'm female but could not care less about my appearance, other than not being fat or smelly. I try to keep at least a modest appearance, but I have 0 interest in fashion and buy all my clothes at the salvation army, even though I make decent money as a programmer. Sneakers. Jeans. T-shirt.
- I'm SO clumsy and always have been. I have bruises on top of bruises that I couldn't even say where they came from, but for some reason I can also play the French Horn fairly well (technically speaking) and I am a good artist. I'm pretty much the only person from my HS marching band who wiped out during a major performance in the 4 years I was there (but I still got up, covered in mud, and played my solo fine, hah)
- My husband complains that I bottle up my emotions and then let them explode. I also have trouble explaining how I feel and will sometimes even make up things that SEEM right but later on it's obvious I didn't feel that way. I always feel like I'm grasping at straws when I try to explain how I feel.
- I have an emotional scale that involves crying when any strong emotion is felt, particularly frustration, but also happy, sad, angry, scared, etc. I can't stop the tears, not even if I'm in front of the CEO of my company
- I read wikipedia for fun, pretty much every day. I feel like I'm running out of articles.
- I can rattle on endlessly about something I'm interested in, and I talk really loud. I will also research the crap out of stuff to make sure I know as much as I can. I'm kind of considered a fact machine at work, I'm constantly interrupted by people wanting me to answer technical questions (and I love it)
- I like substances (alcohol, etc) a bit too much; they calm my somewhat 'buzzy' mind. I try to be careful though. Right now it doesn't negatively affect my life and I keep an eye on it. My husband is also good about keeping me from doing it too much. I REALLY like it though, and if I didn't watch it closely it would definitely become a problem.
Thanks for reading! I'm also really verbose, particularly when I write!