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The title says it all. How do I ask for affection? I know if someone is affectionate to me I can return it in the same way (learned it from an online course on relationships). But what if I'm the one who wants to start it?
It's rare for me to feel connected to people but I do enjoy when an understanding someone is sweet to me and strokes my hair or do things like that, it feels like I'm dreaming of Heaven.
People around me seem to get it often without asking. How do they do it?
I've asked them and they didn't seem to understand the question or said they never thought about it, "it just happens".
The times I asked for affection it turned out awkward because I didn't understand how it worked.
When I was a child I would say "I think I have lice" so my aunt would run her fingers through my hair. (I think everyone did this at least once).
Can someone explain how I should ask (or not ask) for it? Is it something you say or do? Am I supposed to just rub against them like a cat? (jk)
Should ask and how to ask, those are the questions!
The title says it all. How do I ask for affection? I know if someone is affectionate to me I can return it in the same way (learned it from an online course on relationships). But what if I'm the one who wants to start it?
It's rare for me to feel connected to people but I do enjoy when an understanding someone is sweet to me and strokes my hair or do things like that, it feels like I'm dreaming of Heaven.
People around me seem to get it often without asking. How do they do it?
I've asked them and they didn't seem to understand the question or said they never thought about it, "it just happens".
The times I asked for affection it turned out awkward because I didn't understand how it worked.
When I was a child I would say "I think I have lice" so my aunt would run her fingers through my hair. (I think everyone did this at least once).
Can someone explain how I should ask (or not ask) for it? Is it something you say or do? Am I supposed to just rub against them like a cat? (jk)
Should ask and how to ask, those are the questions!
Have your experiences asking for affection been negative? I'm guessing so from your comments.(it still didnt end well.)
Have your experiences asking for affection been negative? I'm guessing so from your comments.
its been so negative, i had to reform the entire internal economic system just to do without affection.
after all, denying affection is itself a great weapon. unfortunately.
The title says it all. How do I ask for affection? I know if someone is affectionate to me I can return it in the same way (learned it from an online course on relationships). But what if I'm the one who wants to start it?
It's rare for me to feel connected to people but I do enjoy when an understanding someone is sweet to me and strokes my hair or do things like that, it feels like I'm dreaming of Heaven.
People around me seem to get it often without asking. How do they do it?
I've asked them and they didn't seem to understand the question or said they never thought about it, "it just happens".
The times I asked for affection it turned out awkward because I didn't understand how it worked.
When I was a child I would say "I think I have lice" so my aunt would run her fingers through my hair. (I think everyone did this at least once).
Can someone explain how I should ask (or not ask) for it? Is it something you say or do? Am I supposed to just rub against them like a cat? (jk)
Should ask and how to ask, those are the questions!