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Featured Help designing a card explaining when I cannot speak

Discussion in 'General Autism Discussion' started by grommet, Feb 13, 2020.

  1. grommet

    grommet Well-Known Member

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  2. grommet

    grommet Well-Known Member

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    My idea is to turn the card around to show the back where I have the words "yes" and "no". Use my hand to cover the word that is not my answer.

    This is a screenshot of the design, I have not printed the card yet. I am sorry the image is too large and a little distorted, I did not know how to upload it otherwise.
     
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  3. Crossbreed

    Crossbreed Neur-D Missionary ☝

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    [​IMG] Put this GIF on your smartphone,
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    [​IMG] (The "Loading" spinner IS the image...)
     
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    Crossbreed Neur-D Missionary ☝

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    Leave out "This is a robbery," too. ;)
     
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    Aspychata My Art Work

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    Think l would go the opposite route of:


    I have a speech impediment.
    I will answer you on phone.
     
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    Aspychata My Art Work

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    Because it's straight foward, doesn't stress anyone out, and doesn't turn you into target from someone else.
     
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    grommet Well-Known Member

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    I could not get this to load. But maybe you made a joke and it is meant to say that it is loading. I think you meant to be funny and friendly but I was tricked and it feels bad.
     
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    Crossbreed Neur-D Missionary ☝

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    The spinning image IS the image. (Sorry.)

    (It's like your words are still loading. [​IMG])
     
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  9. Aspychata

    Aspychata My Art Work

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    Sorry you feel tricked. On the spectrum, we need to be careful how we joke with each other,Because we have a different tolerance level for pranks then NT.
     
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    Mia Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    I think this card is excellent Grommet:

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    The only thing I would add is: Please do not take my phone, to the last line.
     
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    I sat there for about 10 minutes waiting for it to load...

    Maybe write on the card that "I am mute" that would simplify things a lot. Then bring along picture cards or a notebook and write down what you want to say, or where you want to go on the notebook? People get a lot less panicked if you say "mute" rather than autistic and etc. I wish things were different, but they are not unfortunately. People automatically assume that if you are on the spectrum, you are going to be trouble, or someone to look out for.

    Good luck!
     
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    Yes I suppose that unfortunately saying I am autistic doesn't mean much to many people, they will get a picture of Rainman in their heads, maybe? I would rather say Anxious than autistic, anxiety affects many people and is more easily understood, plus it's the anxiety that is making it hard to speak. The cards look very clear, this is a helpful idea.
     
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    When I have trouble talking or don’t want to, I just touch my throat, and sometimes I have a paper and pen to communicate further.
     
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    One important point is to have this on a lanyard, preferably brightly colored. If you go mute during a police stop, you risk being beaten or killed if you reach into your pocket for the card. If you wear a lanyard around your neck, with the card inside your shirt, it's less threatening to slowly pull the card out by the lanyard. Use sign language first to indicate you can't speak, then the cop can read the card.
     
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    Good point. But then my comment wasn't meant to be taken that literally. I agree...you need to work out the details in terms of wording it all in a relatively "diplomatic" manner so as not to offend anyone right off.

    And you don't want to word anything that makes you appear too vulnerable. Showing such a card to a potential predator could be precarious to say the least.

    The world can be a very ugly place at times...:eek:
     
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    I like this one, too.
     
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    Rexi uwu owo uwu SlightlyFilterless Atheist Science=<3 V.I.P Member

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    Nah, try this.
    I am being posessed by the spirit of silence, please wait...
    Sends off a signal you're dangerous too
     
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    Sure.
    What could go wrong? :expressionless:
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    Rexi uwu owo uwu SlightlyFilterless Atheist Science=<3 V.I.P Member

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    I suppose the spirit of Yak'a'hulku is much more intimidating. Or gramda, when she makes throat noises, unless she died young in which case she sounds like Speedy Gonzales.
     
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    I do not think you did anything wrong. I left my comment when I was upset because I got confused. I was in a fact-finding state of mind so was not thinking about kidding around. I apologize to you for saying what I did. It made you look bad but you were not wrong, I should not act out like that.
     
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