Hating gloaters at the moment and women still being snotty.

[Dillon]

So what has been really bugging me lately and almost making me feel bad is people gloating too much, mainly the girls that are going to the same University as I am. I will be attending a&m in a week and I've been coming across nothing but rude, snotty girls. One girl told me yesterday that she hopes she does not see me on campus. Another girl kept raving on about how she travled to Europe and other countries over the summer; she was doing that cause I have never done those things in my life. Then I had another one where I tried to help someone school related and she just butts in and says the same thing that I just said. What in the world is going on? I can't talk to a girl cause iam not "perfect" but other girls talk to other guys. I dont own a car even though iam 21, never done anything special such as travel the world, and things like that. Girls always exclude me in things cause iam deemed worthless. Can any of you girls or anyone out there give me some advice on getting a girl to actually be my friend?!?

 

[Bolletje]

My advice would be not treating girls any differently than you would treat your male friends.
I always got annoyed when guys talked to me like I was a different species. Just be friendly to people you like, be civil to people you don't like, and don't try too hard to make friends or you'll come off as creepy.

I ran into too many unfriendly people at university, they're not worth wasting your energy on.

 

[SusanLR]

Find one that is down to Earth and sensible.
Surely they aren't all those snotty little divas.
They were around when I was in University and I couldn't stand them. Yes, they think they are hot s**t and if you aren't en vogue, from a wealthy family, who's biggest worry is the latest trendy fashions, make-up or hair style, you are "Just so out." If you don't fit their little in crowd, forget it. And as far as guys, they want only highly sought jocks or the worldly snoots.
I'm not into the dating scene anymore, but, there must be girls that aren't going around with their noses in the air.
You'll know when you see her. Although I can imagine in University the divas abound.

 

[Gracey]

Don't try too hard Dillon. Your intelligence and sparkle will shine through as your course progresses. Sing your own tune for now, those that like that kind of thing or are even similar in some ways will pick you up on their radar
Patience, my friend

 

[Suzanne]

I get this so often with my own sex, to the extent that I feel very insecure around a type of woman. She usually is tall and very slim and oozes glamour and make up perfect and I just want to run in the opposite direction.

What an incredably rude thing to say that she hopes she does not see you around the building; that is out and out filthy way to talk to another human being, UNLESS, you have done something offensive to her and well, that is quite possible, due to not getting the boundries very well. ( Just as suggestion, not an accusation).

My husband often says: how can she hate you, she has no cause to hate you. Well, women are very good at judging their own sex and so WILL think nothing of telling a "lesser" male being what they think of them.

Again, my husband, I consider is a good looker, but he related being in a nightclub and liked the look of a girl and asked her if she would like a drink and she looked and laughed at him and said: you think you have a chance with me? Or something like that and she shouted it out and thus others turned around. Naturally he felt humiliated.

I still have not been able to figure out what the missing link for me to get on with females, is. I try. I have a varied conversation and I do do all I can to not go on a tangent, but it gets to a point, they obviously have no desire to talk to me and actually only if they want something.

Remember being in college, as a very young, niave 22 year old and was surrounded by younger girls, who were there, just because it was something to do and pressure from their parents. They were distruptive and of the lecturer could not lecture, due to wasting so much energy and asking girls to please pay attention.

I was hated. Because I was there to learn, I did my work and a couple of times, a girl would pass me and deliberately knock my folder to the ground and obviously, if I wanted it back in order, I had to humiliate myself and my eyes were so blurred that I could barely see to pick up things.

Some would steal my work and pass it around say sarcastically: oh, isn't she so good; doing all this work and it would eventually come back to me scribbled on.

I went home every day, crying and wanting to give up, but my husband said that I had to beat it. I did manage to pass some qualifications but the biggest one, I failed on and that was due to the haphazd training, but of course, it fell back on me making excuses.

I made not one single friend in college. I was aloner when I started and a loner when I ended and have pretty much had to deal with that all my life.

 

[Alaska]

Don't let the snobs get you down. There are nice girls around. Keep looking and be patient and you will find each other.

 

[Molly]

Hi @Dillon Campbell . What a rude girl she is - they seem quite immature.

You are better off without people like that, try not to let them get to you. You'll soon find someone who you feel comfortable with, it's not easy being around people, I know from experience.

Just as @Bolletje says, try not to treat the girls too differently than you would the guys, and try to be yourself as the right people will appreciate you for that.

Lol, I am female but have sort of a guys brain and seem to have far more to discuss with guys than girls, which I accept and don't worry about.

Oh, and you are not worthless, you have a lot to give, so hang on in there. Concentrate on your studies and try to ignore the silly girls. We are not all like that...

Oh, and don't let them see they have upset you...don't give them the satisfaction.