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Crossbreed said:
Hello & welcome @Confused!
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That means he was around 38 when you were born.
I was 38 when my youngest was born. ;)
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Yes, Dad was a day away from 38 the day I had been born. Initially my birthday was going to be the same day as his, but the hospital decided that I should have a birthday of my own, hence it turned out to be the day before his. Would you mind becomeing new friends?
 
Thank you. Sorry, but I feel isolated residing with my father in an Assisted Living community.

We could exchange email addresses in a PM/Inbox Conversation on this site.
 
Hi all, hope this finds you well... Elderly guy here, late self-determined autistic after a life of childhood isolation and bullying (why?), Tourette (ah, some answer maybe), ADHD, autism (unknown but now more evident) and all that comes with being effortlessly a social misfit (he has "potential" BUT...).

Interested in learning more about letting go of the mirroring of social cues I turned to, like many, to try and have a sense of belonging, fitting in. It never happened, though, it's like a punishment or something? Anyways, a new season of self-discovery beginning and glad I found this forum and so much experiences shared. :)

Hope this intro says enough without oversharing, I try to get to the point, try, I mean...

Spot
 
Spot said:
Hi all, hope this finds you well... Elderly guy here,
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Old git here too. :cool:
Spot said:
late self-determined autistic after a life of childhood isolation and bullying (why?), Tourette (ah, some answer maybe), ADHD, autism (unknown but now more evident) and all that comes with being effortlessly a social misfit (he has "potential" BUT...).
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I was diagnosed as "mildly autistic" in my mid 20s.

Spot said:
Interested in learning more about letting go of the mirroring of social cues I turned to, like many, to try and have a sense of belonging, fitting in.
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That is called "masking", I believe, and it is not that uncommon in the autistic community.
I have never done it on a conscious level.
I never will.
I am comfortable being an ultimate individual, and virtual recluse, especially now that I am retired. :cool:

Spot said:
It never happened, though, it's like a punishment or something?
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Some, if not many of us, feel as though we have always been on the outside looking in.
And yes, you have been punished for choosing to be conceived.
Don't do it again. :p

Spot said:
Anyways, a new season of self-discovery beginning and glad I found this forum and so much experiences shared. :)
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Self discovery is never ending.
I have learnt so much via the sharing of experiences in various autistic communities.
"The Truth shall set you free!"
Spot said:
Hope this intro says enough without oversharing, I try to get to the point, try, I mean...

Spot
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Welcome...
 
Hello, I have self diagnosed several weeks back at 43. Autism and adhd. Also started having some kind of seizures. Although I'm not seeking an official diagnosis, everything started making sense when I learned about autism.

How did I miss that? Oh I know how, becasue of how stereotypically autism is presented, even in medical literature and articles.

I live now Poland, my "homeland" after living abroad in several places. I currently can't work because CTPSD and more recent PTSD, and severe burnout.

I'm glad I didn't get a diagnosis as a child because I know my life would have been even harder. So I learned to fight for myself. Even before I knew anything about autism or adhd, I started #deconditioning any wrongness that people projected on me since childhood. And ironically I've been unmasking for years before the self diagnosis claiming my sense of value in a world that hated me. That's how self diagnosis helped me push even further and be more unapologetically myself.
They hurt me even when I tried my best to fit in, so at least now I'm disillusioned and can be myself.

Although learning about autism came with relief, it also came with grief about my own struggles and lack of anyone who would ever stand up for me and for other kin neurodivergent. I know that my smarts help me in navigating this world but also often isolate me.

Happy to have found you people
 
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Welcome.

I am also grateful I was not diagnosed as a child. Instead I learned to fight and adapt. In retrospect I can see most of my smarts went toward that goal.

Learning to live as who I am has been quite a learning experience.
 
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